Principles in work and life. What is worth defending from your life principles? Why integrity? Basic principles of man, his rights and foundations

The principles of human life described in this article are not the revelation of any of the prophets, are not compiled by a famous author, and do not resonate with God’s commandments (and if they do, it is not for religious reasons). These principles are realized by me and are based on my personal experience and subjective perception.

Be merciful and kind

I am not a member of a cult and I am not encouraging you to join the Peace Corps. Doing good can be much more difficult in small things, on an everyday scale, than saving the world. This is what the first principle says - in every situation that fills a person’s every day, there are different lines of behavior and, accordingly, options for action. By choosing one that has a good message, you not only do yourself good (because good always comes back), but you also inspire others to do the same. Not only epidemics and affectionate words spread from person to person, mercy and consideration for others can also infect people.

Be brave

The longer humanity exists, the more precisely the beaten paths are worked out, and the easier it becomes to follow them. Being brave doesn't necessarily mean going against the grain and going against society - you probably don't want to at all. Being brave means doing what you want, doing what you feel, and saying what you think.

Have the courage to dream. Have the courage to create. And most importantly, have the courage to act.

Always remember that you are not alone

Very often it seems to us that we are alone against the whole world. That no one can help us, and we must do everything ourselves. Taking responsibility for your life and actions is very good, but you shouldn’t lock yourself in the bubble of your own “I can” and “I do,” because there are things that are beyond a person’s control or things that you definitely can’t do alone.

Remember two things: firstly, you are not alone - look around: there are many people around who are ready and able to help you and provide support. Believe in people. Secondly, no matter how you feel about religion, it is stupid to deny that there are no higher powers besides man. There is something much larger in this world than each of us individually. For some it is God, for others it is the Universe, for others it is the unity of all living beings. Don't forget that you are not alone in the vast world. You won’t get lost, they look after you, they help you, they take care of you. Always.

Be here and now

One of the main life principles that is most difficult to follow is to stay in the present, to live in it. Living in the past or future is a huge temptation, an excellent means of escaping reality. But the reality is that if you don't manage your present, either your past will define you or your future will be built by someone else. And in order to manage the present, you need to be in it. Develop awareness, learn to fixate on the “here and now.”

Analyze

Living your life without trying to understand the causes and consequences of your own actions, the events of your life means wasting it. Don't float with the flow like a log, get into the boat and control its movement. To do this, you will need to become an analyzer of what is happening both inside and around you. Don't be that person who, when you die, understands less than when you were first born. Analyze yourself - if you understand yourself, you will have access to understanding the whole world.

Explore

In our wonderful world there are enough reasons to be surprised for the life of every person. Humanity has existed for several thousand years, and the world continues to surprise us. Don’t lose your child’s curiosity, look at everything as if you were seeing it for the first time. Don't be afraid to explore new things, make discoveries of any scale, and your life will never be boring. Already now it is filled with thousands of amazing things that are worth learning about, that are worth noticing and studying. Live with your eyes, mind and heart wide open.

Love

Without love, the brightest life is only a shadow of what it could be if a person let the highest feeling into it - love. Giving and receiving love in order to be happy is as important as breathing and eating in order to live. Trusting your feelings is risky and scary, but remember the second principle? Be brave when it comes to love because it is the only thing that can make you truly happy. Love is the highest reward, and it requires a lot of work. Love needs to be cherished, nurtured, supported and developed - then its fruits will make you the happiest of people.

It is interesting to read the stories of the ascent of young and n now successful businessmen. It’s always pleasant, especially if you apply it to yourself and think, what if I can do it too. As our psychologists, motivators, and consultants say, about whom I already speak, you just need to act as successful people do, and you will become just as successful. Naturally, I will argue with this, but there are principles that guide successful people. This is exactly what we will be talking about today.

I confess, I’m a sinner, literally until today I didn’t know that one of the successful social networks “VKontakte” was created by a programmer, and now a successful businessman, 28 year old (at the moment) Pavel Durov. And the story of his rise would have passed me by (you never know how many Zuckerbergs create social networks), if not for Pavel’s life principles, which I have already heard separately, but are collected here in one place. And they really appeal to me, since most of them guide me in life (I don’t understand why I don’t have a personal social network yet? ). My comments are highlighted here in italics.

Find out what you really like. The golden rule is: do what gives you true pleasure, and then you will become much happier.

In my opinion, this principle was promoted by Steve Jobs. Yes, but don’t forget that some of the happiest people are all sorts of crazy people who live in their own made-up world. But if you create a real, not virtual world, exactly the one you like, then this will be real happiness.

Give up the junk you eat, drink and smoke every day. No secrets or tricky diets - natural food, fruits, vegetables, water. There is no need to become a vegetarian and completely give up drinking - you just need to limit sugar, flour, coffee, alcohol and all plastic food as much as possible. How many times have they told the world... On the topic of effective advice for those who want to lose weight
Learn foreign languages. This will expand the depth of perception of the world and open up unprecedented prospects for learning, development and career growth. There are 60 million Russian-speaking Internet users. There are a billion English speakers. The center of progress is now on the other side of the border, including the language border. Knowledge of English is no longer just a whim of intellectuals, but a vital necessity. My recipes for learning English
Read books. An approximate circle is your professional field, history, natural science, personal growth, sociology, psychology, biographies, high-quality fiction. If you don’t have time to read because you’re driving, listen to audiobooks. The golden rule is to read/listen to at least one book a week. That's 50 books a year that will change your life. This is correct, the main thing is to set your priorities correctly. Now I spend as much time as possible on foreign languages, but at other times I read a lot.
Make the most of every weekend. Go to a museum, play sports, go out of town, skydive, visit relatives, go to a good movie. Expand your zone of contact with the world. The more new impressions you let through yourself, the more interesting life will be, and the better you will understand things and phenomena.
Start keeping a blog or a regular diary. It doesn't matter what it's about. It doesn’t matter that you don’t have eloquence and you will have no more than 10 readers. The main thing is that on its pages you can think and reason. And if you just write regularly about what you love, readers will definitely come. Here it is, it’s not in vain that I’m writing here. Even people like Pavel Durov recommend it. Phew, balm for the soul.
Set goals, record them on paper, in Word or on a blog. The main thing is that they are clear, understandable and measurable. If you set a goal, you can either achieve it or not. If you don’t put it in, then there are no options for achieving it at all. Without options, you cannot go there without knowing where and find something without knowing what.
Learn to touch-type on the keyboard. Time is one of the few treasures you have, and you should be able to type almost as quickly as you can think. And you should think not about where the desired letter is, but about what you are writing. Thank you, that's exactly what I'm typing
Ride the time. Learn to manage your affairs so that they work almost without your participation. First, read David Allen - “How to Put Things in Order” or Gleb Arkhangelsky. Make decisions quickly, act immediately, don’t put it off for later. Either do everything or delegate it to someone else.
Give up computer games, aimless sitting on social networks and stupid Internet surfing. Minimize communication on social networks, leave one account. Destroy the television antenna in the apartment. Yes, yes and yes again!
Stop reading the news. All the same, everyone around will talk about key events, and additional noise information does not lead to an improvement in the quality of decision-making. I have already mentioned this principle
Learn to get up early. The paradox is that in the early hours you always get more done than in the evening. If on a summer weekend you leave Moscow at 7 am, then by 10 you will already be in Yaroslavl. If you leave at 10, you will be there by lunchtime at best. 7 hours of sleep is enough for a person, subject to high-quality physical activity and normal nutrition. I don’t like programmers who can only start working at 12 noon. You need to start working as early as possible, and this is confirmed by numerous examples of great people who manage to do much more than sleepy losers.
Try to surround yourself with decent, honest, open, smart and successful people. We are our environment from which we learn everything we know. Spend more time with people you respect and can learn from (especially your bosses). As it turns out, we also choose our bosses. After all, serfdom was abolished in our country quite a long time ago, so there is little point in wasting time on unproductive communication.
Use every moment of time and every person to learn something new. If life brings you together with a professional in any field, try to understand what is the essence of his work, what are his motivations and goals. Learn to ask the right questions - even a taxi driver can become an invaluable source of information. As Carnegie said, “Take a keen interest in other people.”
Start traveling, change your environment more often. It doesn’t matter that there is no money for Argentina and New Zealand - the quality of your vacation is not related to the money spent. When you see how diverse the world is, you will stop focusing on the space around you, and you will become more tolerant, calmer and wiser.
Buy a camera and try to capture the beauty of the world. When you succeed, you will remember your travels not only by vague impressions, but also by the beautiful photographs that you brought with you. As an alternative, try drawing, singing, dancing, sculpting, designing. That is, do something that will make you look at the world with different eyes. By the way, I don’t post all my photos, there are also my interesting(?) photos
Do some sports. You don’t have to go to a fitness club where jocks, pick-up artists, Balzac ladies and freaks hang out. Yoga, rock climbing, cycling, horizontal bar, parallel bars, football, running, plyometrics, swimming, functional training are the best friends of a person who wants to tone the body and get a surge of endorphins. And forget about the elevator. Yes, it’s definitely time, otherwise I’ve been lazy lately and take the elevator to the fourth floor. Unfortunately, our staircase is very smoky, and this is one of the reasons...
Do unusual things. Go somewhere you’ve never been, take a different route to work, figure out a problem you know nothing about. Get out of your “comfort zone”, expand your knowledge and horizons. Rearrange the furniture at home, change your appearance, hairstyle, image. I've been wanting to dye my hair red for a long time, it'll probably suit me. I just imagine myself in a jacket and with a laptop walking to a client with a bright red head. Yes, inspired by it, I recently re-read The Red Headed League by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle.
Invest. Ideally, you should invest part of your income every month, because a rich person is not the one who earns a lot, but the one who invests a lot. Try to invest in assets, minimize liabilities and control expenses.
Get rid of the junk. Throw away any excess or unnecessary items that you haven't worn or used in the last year. Leave only what you like and need. It's a pity to throw it away - give it away.
Give more than you take. Share knowledge, experience and ideas. A person who not only takes, but also shares, is incredibly attractive. Surely you can do something that others really want to learn.
Accept the world as it is. Give up value judgments, accept all phenomena as neutral. And even better – as unequivocally positive.
Forget about what happened in the past. It has nothing to do with the future. Take with you from there only experience, knowledge, good relationships and positive impressions.
Don't be afraid. There are no insurmountable obstacles, and all doubts live only in your head ( They also say “all the bars are inside us”“ ) . You don't have to be a warrior, you just need to see the goal, avoid obstacles and know that you will achieve it without a single chance of failure.
The last one is the first one. Do what you like. Learn. Teach. Develop yourself. Change yourself from within.

It only remains to add that these rules need to be re-read periodically so as not to forget about them.

P.S. Along the way, you can read the history of the creation of the VKontakte network and the role of Pavel Durov in all this

Life principles are a kind of attitude that a person gives himself in order to react in certain situations in a necessary, morally acceptable way for him. But not everyone has these principles. And why, in fact, follow the rules if you can navigate according to the situation? But are principles really so useless in life? Of course not! We'll talk about this today.

Man of principle

As has already been said, principles in a person’s life are a conscious attitude that tells them what to do. Any principles are based on norms and stereotypes of behavior. The main thing is not to confuse the righteous with the sinful. Stereotypes and principles are two different things.

A stereotype is a socially established way of human behavior. The principles, in turn, are more spiritual and in some cases are invented by a person independently. But it has already become the custom that it is not common for a person to delve into his principles until they begin to diverge from some social factors. Then a person faces a choice: follow his convictions or simply change the principle. People who lack fortitude will, of course, choose the second option.

Naturally, there are situations when following your principles is not only absurd, but also dangerous. One need only remember Giordano Bruno. He fundamentally did not want to give up his idea of the solar system, for which he was burned at the stake. Someone will say that this scientist is an ordinary pathological fanatic, but it is precisely such people who are called truly principled.

Game of integrity

Note. Principles in a person’s life, in fact, must play an important role. A person accepts principles that apply to his life in general or to a specific area of it. For religious people, the principles become the commandments, for others - their own moral and ethical standards and views on life.

A person must consciously choose his principles that would help him move towards his goal and not limit him unless absolutely necessary. But, since modern man loves to live “without straining,” his principles are often blind. They do not correspond to the real state of affairs, cannot direct a person in the right direction and do not serve as support.

And today it is rare to meet a person with real life principles. But how the public loves to play with principles! This simple word is most often remembered only when the situation requires it.

Problem

To follow principles in life, you need to remember them, think about them, and make independent decisions. But modern man is accustomed to living, thoughtlessly guided by habits or emotions. People remember that they can follow the principles in case of situational need. They make them up as they go along to justify their impulsive actions.

The main problem of modern man is a lack of understanding of why principles are needed and how to follow them. And also the inability to correctly determine your position.

Do the principles make sense?

Principles in a person’s life play the role of boundaries within which one can move towards one’s goal. The so-called irreplaceable element of the self-organization system, the rules of the game, following which you can achieve what you want. But if players start breaking the rules, then any game will lose its meaning. The main idea of this “entertainment” is to give the world something useful.

Of course, in the pursuit of success you can destroy the planet, but what would be the point in winning?!

Each person has his own values. For some it is family, for others it is friends, health, knowledge. And if in order to win you have to give up the most important things, it is unlikely to bring the desired joy.

This is the meaning of the principles - they form a boundary that should not be crossed so as not to destroy the precious zone of happiness.

Search for principles

The basic principles of life should be formed according to two main positions:

What will I not do under any circumstances?
What I should do?

To determine the principles, it is worth using the method of limiting situations. Everything is done very simply. We take each of our values in turn and begin to look for the boundary that we will not cross either to achieve a goal or to avoid problems.

For example, you can take values such as wealth, money, material stability. Next, you should ask yourself: “What wouldn’t I do even for a billion dollars?” And also ask the question: “What will I not do, even if I am at the bottom?”

When searching for principles, don't shy away from uncomfortable and difficult questions. Even if the situations are imaginary, they are always outside the comfort zone, therefore they show where a person’s internal boundaries are. For example, you can ask yourself: “Am I ready to kill an animal, deceive a colleague, a child for the sake of wealth?” On the other hand, you can ask the following question: “In order not to die of hunger, am I ready to commit theft, murder, etc.?” After the pendulum begins to swing from one extreme to the other, the established principle must be expressed in a positive form.

Admissibility Question

The positive form of the principle must be formed without negations. That is, do not use the particle “not”. It is better to say “I will always conduct my affairs honestly” than “I will never cheat for money.” Only in this way can the principle be considered acceptable, that is, its observance will have practical meaning for a person and will increase self-esteem.

If you work through all the values in this way, you can get a basic set of principles. But when a person is frankly too lazy to work on his values, he can use the principles dictated by religion or history. For example, the commandments of Moses, Vedic principles, the code of the builders of communism and any other principles of organizing life that are accessible to man. Lists can be combined, expanded, trimmed until you get a set of beliefs that will help make your life better.

Not an easy path

However, it is not easy to follow principles. It's like playing basketball, where the opponent uses guns to shoot the ball into the basket, and you follow the rules. Only someone for whom principle is more important than life can be a truly principled person.

Let’s say in the film “The Battle of the Red Cliff” there was such an episode: the hero swore with his head that he would get 10 thousand arrows for the army by morning. In the morning, when the arrows were counted, there were 9900 of them. The hero is ready to accept execution, without even making excuses.

It would seem that it makes no difference whether there are a hundred more or fewer arrows, in any case the army is armed, everything is fine. But for a person whose honor comes before life, it doesn’t matter by what percentage the task is unfulfilled - it is unthinkable to live without keeping his promise.

Who needs principles and why?

It's reasonable to ask this question. Why do we need principles if they are so difficult to follow? If you imagine that there is a war going on and you have to choose with whom to go on reconnaissance: with a principled or unprincipled person, of course, everyone will choose the first. Although it will be difficult with him, since he is more demanding, but on the whole it is safe.

The main purpose of the main principles of life is to facilitate movement towards your goal. Principles are an additional life insurance and a guideline for situations where there are no guidelines a priori.

A person with principles is undoubtedly more valuable to society. By following the principles, he becomes stronger and better. For example, imagine that there is someone who always keeps his word. And if he said that he would do a report or project by morning, he will do it. He can come to an employee and ask him to do certain work for a project, and to do it now. And the person will do it. Subconsciously, he feels the pressure that comes from the request, and cannot refuse.

Required pressure

In most cases, principles create the necessary pressure, which helps achieve the goal. Of course, following the principles requires a lot of effort. But thanks to them, a person can consciously develop strength in himself and create a reasonable society.

Without principles, a person may make hasty decisions that bring immediate benefits, but mostly lose in the long term. Principles help you achieve long-term goals and protect you from fatal mistakes.

What principles can there be in life?

A person can be guided in his life by a variety of principles. And everyone has their own priorities in this matter.

Some people put the principles of a healthy lifestyle first. He lives according to a schedule, eats right, and does not drink alcohol in excess of the norm. For some, the main thing is family or friends, and he will never do anything that will harm them. And someone simply takes positions that will help him achieve what he wants. Here are the principles most often used by those who want to achieve something:

Don't lend money. Help financially if possible and necessary.
Work only with responsible people.
Before asking for help, you need to try to cope on your own.
Time is the most valuable resource. Helping yourself and others is possible only by focusing on important things, rather than wasting time.
It's okay to say no.
Disapproval must be expressed through objections; silence is tantamount to agreement.
I never take orders that are beyond my knowledge and competence.
If I am somewhere, then I am present there mentally.
When my plans change, I will inform you immediately.
Mistakes are normal.
Every day you need to learn something new.
The foundation of tomorrow begins today.
Before you do anything, you need to thoroughly understand it.

As can be seen from the list, life principles are guidelines according to which a person receives the right to behave in a particular situation the way he wants. Whether it's the principles of a healthy life, business relationships or a happy personality, they help you perform to your full potential. By acting in accordance with the principles, a person will definitely feel confident and strong, and those around him will unmistakably recognize him as a leader, a hero who, in any case, will answer for his words.

Hello, dear blog readers! A person’s life principles are the rules he personally developed, which he adheres to and believes in, his desires, his views on various situations and, of course, actions. They are different for everyone, depending on their upbringing environment and environment. But still, there are similarities between the basic, global principles that all of humanity usually follows, and today I will tell you about them.

List

To make it clearer how to live, a person has to create boundaries for himself. And then in various situations he focuses on them, knowing how to act and behave. He correlates the behavior of other people with his own laws and norms. Principles, by their essence, perform a delimiting function, that is, they help to draw a clear boundary between concepts such as good or bad, white or black.

Such a symbolic litmus test. And I want to give you examples of basic life rules that correspond to the norms of human morality and morality, perhaps some of them will be suitable for you.

1.Boomerang

3.Never give up

You remember, success depends on perseverance; life never happens like clockwork. Everyone always has limitations and difficulties, and the difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is that the former continue to move under any circumstances, even if they cannot walk, they crawl in the direction of their dreams. This is the basic law of great people, and I am sure that determination will not hurt anyone. In addition, mistakes help you gain experience that you can build on in the future.

4.Learn to forgive

This is a philosophy of healthy life, since a feeling of resentment destroys the body and significantly worsens the emotional state. To put it in a metaphor, the feeling of living with resentment is similar to constantly carrying a bag of stones on your back, which are absolutely unnecessary. By keeping it inside, you make it worse not for the offender, but for yourself, so learn to forgive and let go.

No people are perfect, and besides, we can often hurt another without realizing that we are hurting him, anyone can make a mistake, do not deprive someone of the right to be forgiven, especially if he is ready to atone for his guilt.

5.Don't waste your time

Yes, it is important to rest, but excessive passivity leads to various destructions, both in personal life and professional activity. TV, social networks and computer games are the main killers of your time, because of which life passes you by.

Control yourself, because every minute is priceless, no one knows how much time he is destined to spend on earth. Therefore, try to live every moment, take everything from it, and not run away into the virtual world.

You can talk about virtual addiction.

6.Never procrastinate

Otherwise, this “later” may not come. I'm not scaring you, it's just that needs and desires tend to change, they are not always static. And if you really want something, try to start immediately. The status of a successful person is achieved by those who act and not just talk.

There are a lot of brilliant people with brilliant ideas around, but not everyone knows how to take risks, take action, and if you don’t turn your thoughts into reality, the world won’t know about you.

7.Only forward

The life credo of many great people is the phrase:

“Never stop, develop, and learn something new every day”

Development is actually very important, no matter how smart a person is, everything in the world is constantly changing, and it is important to be, if not on the wave of changes, then at least just in the know. And no one knows at what point the acquired knowledge can help, what is clear is that it will definitely not be superfluous. So read books, learn foreign languages and develop your powers of observation, which will help you grasp new information.

8.Respect

You can get it if you yourself know how to respect other people’s boundaries and give recognition, instead of living with anger due to surging envy. Even a small child deserves to have his wishes and opinions listened to; this is the only way he will learn tact in relation to other people.

9.Condemnation

Before you judge someone, try to put yourself in their shoes. This is a very effective method, it helps to give an objective assessment of what is happening and notice completely different nuances that are not visible at first glance, limited due to one-sidedness. We are all different people, we have different values, views, characters, so judging the actions of another based on our life history will be a huge mistake. Always clarify the motives for your actions; sometimes other people have no idea that they are making a mistake or hurting you; an open conversation will help clarify the situation.

10.Keep your word

If you made a promise, always keep it, or, as a last resort, apologize and explain why it won’t be possible to implement it. This rule is included in the basic principles of every self-respecting person. Otherwise, they will not trust you, you will not seem like a reliable partner, both in your personal life and in your professional activities. You can read about this topic.

11. Therapy

There is a whole direction in psychotherapy, it helps every person learn to live in the given moment, that is, here and now, and this direction is called Gestalt therapy. It seems that everything is simple, you need to notice reality, but in fact, many do not even imagine how often they “fall out” of it, dragging past events into conflicts, excessively fantasizing about the opinions of others and the future in general.

The entire list of rules I have indicated is inextricably linked with the ability to notice oneself in the present and recognize one’s current needs. You can see more details on how to learn this.

12.Possibilities

We need a meeting with every person for something, even if it did not bring positive emotions, but only created problems. This means that you need to advance in some way, learn, realize, discover new opportunities and resources. Therefore, do not blame fate for troubles, but try to recognize what exactly is hidden in this unpleasant lesson.

By the way, I also include various trainings as opportunities. Here is an example of a good and free training on financial literacy.

Conclusion

I gave as an example the basic laws that most people adhere to, and finally I want to note that the main thing is to protect your interests and views, remember rule number two: “Be true to yourself”? After all, this is the whole point of the principle - a person strictly adheres to it, even if others think differently.

We often dream of doing some crazy thing. Conquer Everest, run a marathon, skydive, open a business, go on a trip, write a book, record an album, make a film... The list goes on and on.

Think about the items on your bucket list. Now answer: why haven’t you done all this yet? The answer is almost always the same: it's hard. Well, I hate to break it to you, but life is supposed to be difficult. You must learn this valuable lesson.

Don't avoid challenges. Learn to overcome them.

There is a wonderful proverb: you can’t catch a fish out of a pond without effort. You won't run a marathon unless you exercise hard. You won't start a business if you don't put your all into it. Willpower requires character building.

2. Avoid negativity

We absorb negative emotions at work, at home, on public transport. People are instinctively negative. Therefore, it seems to us that there is so much lies and injustice in the world.

Don't let other people's bad moods and character ruin your life. We always try to justify other people's behavior. “He will change, and everything will be fine,” did you have such thoughts? But you know that you cannot change a person? He will change only when he wants it. Remember this and don't give in to negativity.

3. Give more than you receive

As children, someone else took care of us. We received food, shelter, education and, if we were lucky, a lot of love. Unfortunately, as adults, some of us take this for granted. We just take, take, take.

We think we should get everything we want. But who said that you have to get the job you apply for? Or gain worldwide fame? Nobody owes you anything.

Don't focus on your desires, but focus on what you can offer this world in return. Don't be surprised if you earn even more by following this advice. By helping others, you help yourself.

4. Value time

Of all the resources in the world, time is the most valuable. So why do we spend it as if we have an unlimited supply of time?

Remember that life does not stand still. And we can't control everything around us. There is no point in thinking about everything that happens in life. Just move forward.