Therapeutic tales from Seven Signs. Educational issues

Fairy tales help in education, but there are very harmful fairy tales

The fact is that fairy tales are fairy tales only for us. We understand that there are no miracles. For children, fairy tales are the most real reality, because children in the first years of their lives live in a fairy tale. And we, adults, are wizards. They don’t know how to do anything yet, but we can do everything. At least in their eyes we can do anything. And indeed, everything they need in the first years of life they get from us. Unfortunately, we often give them more than they need, and, worst of all, before they ask. This is how the need to get more than you need develops, without making your own efforts and without even expressing your desires. I’m scared for the fate of a child who, at the age of eight, doesn’t know who he wants to be. I have already written about this. The most destructive fairy tales for people are the tale of Sleeping Beauty And fairy tale about Santa Claus. Unfortunately, these fairy tales are firmly included in the script of many adults. There are women who can sleep like a sleeping beauty for 100 years and dream of marrying an 18-year-old prince at 116 years old. Instead of working on themselves, they lead a thoughtless life. But when they wake up, it turns out that there is no longer either youth or beauty.

Many men live in this fairy tale. I saw especially a lot of SLEEPING BEAUTIES among athletes. They lived as if they thought they would score goals all the time and get big money. Life is like a fairy tale. Only when you wake up, then there is no longer either youth or beauty. So I’m trying to wake up people with my books. I just want to shout: “WAKE UP!”

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Many also believe in Santa Claus, who, no matter what you do, and even if you haven’t done anything at all, will still come on New Year’s Eve and put an expensive gift under the tree. When the children living in this fairy tale grow up, they become convinced that no one just does anything to them, even on New Year’s Eve. But they haven’t learned to do anything themselves and still continue to hope for something.

There are many more tales in which idleness is rewarded, e.g. “At the Command of the Pike”, “The Little Humpbacked Horse”, “Ilya Muromets”, “Little Red Riding Hood” and many others. Often children ask us questions that contain a real vision of reality. After all, the Prince got into trouble by marrying Nero - Cinderella. And in the fairy tale about Little Red Riding Hood, the children rightly feel sorry for the Gray Wolf. After all, it ended with the hunters killing the wolf, and Little Red Riding Hood and the 45-year-old grandmother stuffing his belly with stones before throwing him into the well. And there is no need for this illusion that you can sit on a stove for 33 years, like Ilya Muromets, and then, after a five-minute conversation with the wise men and taking a glass of water, become a hero. And Emelya will not be able to fool the entire retinue and the king, as was written in the fairy tale. Many people have the opinion that when a difficult moment comes, then a person will quickly learn everything. I want to express my opinion.

A fragile skill is performed even worse than when you are in a calm state.

I know only one fairy tale that glorifies work - “The Three Little Pigs.” There Naf-Naf built a house of stones. But he let his idle brothers into the house. If a child takes these idlers as a model, then such a fairy tale will also teach nothing.

It seems to me that the child should be taken out of the fairy tale as quickly as possible. Or better yet, don’t put it there at all. The following rule would be appropriate here. What a child, in accordance with his age, should be able to do himself, must do it himself.

That is, in a year he must walk on his own,

at two - I eat myself,

at three - dress yourself,

at ten - he can fully serve himself and stop causing losses to his family.

Yes, at the age of 10 a child should get used to work! By the way, many philosophers have written about this. They pointed out that by the age of 10, with proper upbringing, a child should already be bringing income to the family. Is this the case with us now, especially among the intelligentsia?

Here we should learn from our smaller brothers. After all, they make sure that their children quickly become hunters. The fox, when her kids grow up, begins to bring them half-strangled mice so that they can hunt them. As the fox cubs grow up, the mobility of the mice brought by the fox becomes greater. I like to see how some parents take their children to work with them and they help them as much as possible. The sooner children are introduced to productive work, the better it will be for them and for their parents.

Unfortunately, all education and training in our country is carried out in an edifying manner, that is, from top to bottom, which does not contribute to the development of thinking, that is, humanization, but leads to the education of either rebels or slaves. A child at this age already speaks. Communicating with him “eye to eye” is already quite easy. At this age, edifications, lectures and coercion are common among us, which can lead to the development of hypocrisy.

How should you talk to a child at this age? The same as with adults! Ask them questions. Give them the opportunity to answer incorrectly several times and only then give the correct answer. Help him think, guess, and not say right away, especially if he doesn’t ask. I would also like to note that parents should also listen to the so-called incorrect answers of their children. Perhaps there is more truth in them than in our maxims.

And the general task should be to raise a child in such a way that he treats himself well, loves his loved ones, is ready for new contacts and enjoys studying and working, he has such inclinations. You just need to not interfere with this and help a little in difficult moments. Proper upbringing, that is, feeding a child, takes little time, develops the parent himself and gives great pleasure.

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Most parents are faced with whims: the child does not want to go to bed, put away toys, brush teeth, bathe, eat, or leave the playground on time. Such problems are familiar to every mother. Persuasion, lectures and requests do not bring results, the mother feels powerless, gives up and breaks down screaming. What provokes a new round of whims and hysterics.

What to do?

There is a very effective and at the same time simple way to help a child cope with disobedience. Try not to scold your child, but to tell him a fairy tale! The right fairy tale will help you gently and effectively change your child’s behavior for the better.

Sounds too easy, right? But that's the secret. Read to the end, and I will tell you how a fairy tale helps in education.

Fairy tales for those who don't want to

Listening to a story or fairy tale, a child identifies himself with the hero. A fairy tale helps a child feel that he is not alone, that other children can also experience the same emotions when they find themselves in similar situations. This calms the child down: it turns out that he is not the only one who is stubborn and disobedient; other children also sometimes do not get along with their parents.

Childish “I don’t want to!” - this is an attempt to defend your borders. A slight resistance to mother’s words can over time develop into hysterics for any reason. And if the mother indulges and agrees to everything, the child is lost from permissiveness. But an overly strict, authoritarian approach also does not bring the desired result: hysterics and whims intensify, the child becomes uncontrollable. In the “Obedient Child in 4 Weeks” course, we learn to maintain this balance between sensitivity and firmness.

The task of fairy tale therapy is to give the child a model of correct behavior without pressure and moralizing. When we tell a child: “you can’t run away from mom,” for him it’s just a bunch of words. From about the age of two, children actively develop imaginative thinking, so at this age it is already possible to slowly incorporate metaphors and stories.

The fairy tale helps to gently convey the necessary information to the child, and using the example of the main character, it shows what happens if you don’t listen to your mother and do it your own way.

How to tell fairy tales to a child?

For a therapeutic fairy tale to have an effect, it is important not only to tell it, but also to discuss it with the child. Some psychologists believe that only the child should initiate the discussion, and this makes sense. In order for the fairy tale to work and for the child to draw conclusions, he needs to assimilate and think about the story, live it again with the characters. And the child’s psyche itself will tell you what elements are missing to create a complete picture.

But to better reinforce the fairy tale, you can talk to your child about it immediately after reading it. You can talk through the main events of the fairy tale or ask the child to retell them. It will also be useful to talk through the connections: who went where, what they did, what result they got and how they solved the problem. Such pronunciation will help the child structure information and remember it for further reflection.

It doesn’t matter if your child doesn’t return to discussing the fairy tale after a while. In the right situation, you can casually remind him of the story: “The fidgety little cloud also ran away from mom, remember?” This way the child will learn to apply theoretical experience from fairy tales to practical life situations.

To solve the problem of disobedience, you can use different fairy tales with the same theme. I have selected for you several fairy tales for little reluctant ones, and I hope they will help your children become more obedient and flexible.

A fairy tale about the naughty Sun.

In this fairy tale, we meet a boy named Sunny, who loved to play, but did not want to go to bed on time. One day Sunny got stubborn and decided not to go to bed at all. He played as much as he wanted. And the next day I saw what sad consequences this led to.

The tale about the naughty Sun is useful for all children who do not want to go to bed and argue with their parents. It touches on the theme of friendship, disobedience and responsibility for one's actions. The story about Sunny’s poor health after a sleep disorder will also help the child draw the right conclusions.

The Tale of Naughty

This is a story about a little girl who did not listen to her parents at all and did everything the opposite. And Naughty was so mischievous, she offended her mom and dad so much that they left her to live in the forest. To celebrate, the girl played so much that she did not notice how the ants took all her lunch into their anthill. The naughty girl was not at a loss and dined on sweets, after which her stomach hurt badly. Luckily, mom and dad loved their daughter very much and came home to fix her tummy. But Naughty understood everything, and from then on she always obeyed her parents.

The story about Naughty contains several messages. First of all, the fairy tale teaches you to be obedient and not upset adults, but this is not about the manipulation “be good, otherwise mom will feel bad.” The idea is that adults get upset when a child is deliberately rude, called names and fights. And here the logic is perfectly shown, what result can be obtained by doing one way or another.

The second educational point of the tale is the diet and quality of nutrition. The author emphasizes that you need to eat on time, and if you only dine on sweets, your stomach will hurt.

And the third aspect gives the child a sense of security: no matter how mischievous he is, no matter how bad he behaves, his parents accept him, he is still a desired and beloved child. The baby knows that mom and dad are always there and will come to the rescue no matter what happens.

The Tale of a Naughty Elephant

The story is about a little elephant who did not listen to his mother and ran so far that he got lost. In search of his mother, he wandered through the jungle and met the same naughty kids who were in trouble. The baby elephant helped them cope with difficulties, and although he was very tired and pretty scared, he was still able to find his mother and help his new friends.

Besides the obvious conclusion that disobeying your mother is bad, this wonderful fairy tale teaches a child empathy. Is it possible to help others when you yourself are not in a better position? The fairy tale gives a clear answer: if you are able, help someone who needs your help. And even if you don’t solve your problem yourself, a grateful friend can help you find a way out of a difficult situation.

Fidget, or the Tale of How Clouds Turn into Storm Clouds

This fairy tale tells about a small cloud, the Fidget Cloud, who was generally obedient, but sometimes still flew further than her mother allowed. One day, the cloud liked the garden of her new friend Mishutka so much that she forgot and did not notice how she had worried her mother and accidentally caused a storm. The fidget cloud was very surprised and frightened, because she did not know why her mother reacted so violently.

The fairy tale demonstrates the adequate reaction of the Cloud Mother to the disobedience of the restless Cloud Mother. Oblakusha knows that her mother usually supports her and approves of her actions, so her mother’s sudden discontent surprises her and makes her think about what caused it. Mom becomes more and more upset, and the storm that breaks out helps the baby understand that her mother’s patience is not limitless, makes her feel how much she really loves her mother and is afraid of losing her.
The child understands that no matter how angry his mother is and scolds him in an emotional outburst, she continues to love him at this moment. And she is not angry with him, but with his negative actions.

Unfortunately, fairy tales are not always enough. Very childish behavior requires an immediate response. You will learn how to correct tantrums without screaming in the “Obedient Child in 4 Weeks” course. As a result, you will not only be able to avoid disobedience and hysterics, but you will also understand why your child behaves this way, and you will receive working algorithms for working with all difficult situations in parenting.

FOR THE FIRST TIME ON THE "NATIVE PATH" AND IN THE "GAMES WORKSHOP"!

NEW TRAINING - PRACTICUM for teachers and parents

BY WRITING FAIRY TALES,

HELPING TO SOLVE PROBLEM SITUATIONS IN

EDUCATION AND DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDREN AND COMMUNICATION WITH THEM

During the training, together with you, we will compose fairy tales that will help us and our children solve the problems that have arisen in their upbringing and development (does not want to brush their teeth or wash their hair, is afraid of dogs or peers in the sandbox, says “toilet words”, does not want to share toys, too trusting or, on the contrary, distrustful, etc. - according to your requests and situations of specific children and mothers - training participants),

we will learn to tell them correctly to children, play, discuss.

we will find out what and how to do, so that the fairy tale will help us and the child to establish relationships and mutual understanding, support each other in difficult times, and gently and easily resolve difficult communication situations.

We will share the results with each other, support and help each other, receiving professional help from child and family psychologist Natalia Barinova, her tips, advice from her experience.

Individual fairy tales that you will learn to compose at the training for your child are:

the key to success and joyful creative communication with children,
a key that will always be with you - at home and on the road, in winter and summer;

a key that will gently, easily and lovingly help you resolve problems in raising children.

The training includes:

Introductory webinar about why and how to compose fairy tales for your specific child, taking into account his characteristics, the characteristics of the family and the problem that you want to solve. How to tell a fairy tale to a child? What should be changed in the texts of finished fairy tales and how can they be edited taking into account the peculiarities of your situation?
Two webinars-workshops, where we will help each other to compose a fairy tale for our specific children of the course, discuss our fairy tales, give each other ideas, phrases, plot points, and the host of the training, child and family psychologist Natalya Barinova, will guide you at the webinar will help each of you.
Communication of training participants with each other in remote class forums, group support.
Communication with the leader of the training - family and child psychologist Natalya Barinova, her assistance to each participant course, answers to your questions, analysis of fairy tales. Natalya will always guide you and help you see something. what is not immediately visible will tell you
Collections of fairy tales composed by training participants(will be ready based on the results of the training after its completion).
Appendix - All recordings of our old course "A fairy tale will help - 1, 2, 3", which took place on our website and in the Games Workshop “Through the game - to success!” four years ago (a complete set of webinar recordings, answers to questions, fairy tales, practical materials). Here's what this "legacy course" kit includes - see below

DATES OF TRAINING: July - August, each training participant learns at an individual pace

FOR ANY QUESTIONS, WRITE TO THE TRAINING ORGANIZER VALASINA ASE BY EMAIL: [email protected]

MEET THE TRAINING LEADER NATALIA BARINOVA AND THE METHOD OF FAIRY TALE THERAPY:

TV SHOW OF THE FIRST EDUCATIONAL CHANNEL "LEARNING TO RAISING CHILDREN USING THE METHOD OF FAIRY TALES THERAPY."

EXPERT AND GUEST OF THE PROGRAM: NATALIA BARINOVA, HOST OF OUR TRAINING ON FAIRY TALES

See you at our fabulous training! Our children and we so need the world of fairy tales!

A fairy tale is the key to happy communication with children and to easy resolution of many problematic situations. But you still need to be able to use this key. How? - we will talk about this in our course.

In this course you will learn:

- how to compose a fairy tale to solve your child’s problems,
- how to tell it to your baby, so that it gives results,
- How edit to suit individual needs Your child’s ready-made psychocorrectional tales from books or other sources,
- what fairy tales and how will they help? To you in different specific situations raising children (the baby is afraid of something, does not use the potty, cannot wean himself off the pacifier, does not want to go to kindergarten, is shy about guests, does not want to get dressed or cut his nails, is afraid to wash his hair and many others).

Problematic situations often arise in raising children. One baby is embarrassed by strangers, another doesn’t want to get dressed for a walk or put away toys, the third can’t part with his pacifier, the fourth loves to make faces, the fifth has difficulty going to kindergarten every morning, the sixth has difficulty finding a common language with peers, etc.

How do you prefer to handle these situations? Which option do you usually choose?

Option 1.

read notations and it’s boring to explain to a child that you can’t do this, and then wonder why it doesn’t help,
try not to pay attention to the problem, worry about it every day,
ask neighbors and girlfriends for advice, grandmothers in the yard, but it’s not a fact that they will work and help, because all children are different,
look for an answer in the forums and try to apply the sketchy techniques that you managed to find, wasting your invaluable time on this,
find a ready-made fairy tale on the Internet to solve the problem, read it to your baby without changes, and wonder why the fairy tale you read had no effect on your baby’s behavior
consider that “the child was born that way” and lose faith that the problem can be solved.

Option 2.

learn to compose individual fairy tales, compiled by you specifically for your baby taking into account all its features - fairy tales that help specifically for your child,
gain a knowledge system about the secrets of fairy tale therapy for preschool children from a specialist in this field - a child psychologist
get information in one place and quickly, in accessible language and with examples of use
avoid the most common mistakes,
get the key to a soft and easy solution to many problems in raising children,
learn to understand your child, see the life situation through his eyes,
learn to change ready-made fairy tales taking into account the characteristics of your child and your situation and tell them correctly to your baby.

The purpose of fairy tale therapy- help the child develop in the most optimal and natural way for him, realizing his capabilities

Fairy tales and fairytale therapy are a tool that is very necessary for every parent and teacher who loves children. It is a fairy tale that often helps when nothing else helps. That’s why I invited child psychologist Natalya Barinova to conduct a whole series of webinars on the basics of fairy tale therapy. And now this cycle is available to everyone.

The choice is yours.

Part 1. "A fairy tale will help - 1: How to compose and tell fairy tales? Brave child"

This is a basic webinar of the series “A Fairy Tale Will Help”

The set "A fairy tale will help - 1" includes:

1.Four videos(total duration - 129 minutes)

1.1. How to write a fairy tale to solve a child's problems? How to change a finished fairy tale taking into account the characteristics of your baby? (video lecture - 39 minutes)

1.2. How to tell your fairy tale to a child? (video lecture - 17 minutes)

1.3. Brave child: what you need to know about children's fears and anxiety, about communication with a child for every parent and teacher, what mistakes are important to avoid? What are the causes of children's fears and anxiety? (video lecture - 28 minutes)

1.4. Answers on questions - video recording of the webinar (45 minutes).

2. Mini-book "Brave Kid" with webinar materials.

3. Reader with poems, games, fairy tale texts.

You will learn:

"A fairy tale will help - 2"

Part 2. "A fairy tale will help - 2: fairy tales for young children" What is included in the "A Fairy Tale Will Help - 2" kit: 1. Recording of the webinar “A fairy tale will help - 2” (1 hour 45 minutes). 2. Practical application - mini-book "A fairy tale will help - 2. Fairy tales for kids."

You will learn:

What to do if the baby just can’t wean yourself off the pacifier?
How to teach a baby to use the potty?
What to do if the baby doesn't want to sleep in your own crib separately from your parents?
How can a fairy tale help if the child doesn't want to go to kindergarten?
What to do if the baby doesn't clean up his toys?
What to do if the baby doesn't want to take a bath or cut his nails?
Why your baby asks to be held on the street and what to do in this case?
How can a fairy tale help a child who doesn't like to dress up?
What to do if your baby often teased?

"A fairy tale will help - 3"

Part 3. "A fairy tale will help - 3. Fairytale therapy. Gender approach" - fairy tales that educate masculinity and femininity The kit includes: 1. Fairy tale therapy: gender approach (video lecture - 25 minutes)

What is gender education?
What is the difference between women's and men's fairy tales, women's and men's paths in life?
What are mixed fairy tales?
Should girls read “male” fairy tales, and boys should read “female” ones, and why?

2. Fairy tales for boys and not only - men's fairy tales (video lecture - 20 minutes):

How did our ancestors instill masculinity in boys?
How does a fairy tale teach a child to be flexible in life?
What does the tale of the three little pigs teach a boy?
Archetype of struggle and road in a folk tale
What ideas and life scenarios are contained in fairy tales for boys: Kolobok, The Three Little Pigs, At the Pike's Command, fairy tales about Ivanushka the Fool?

3. Fairy tales for girls and not only - women's fairy tales (video lecture - 40 minutes)

How do fairy tales teach a girl to create a cozy, comfortable environment around herself and accept help?
What does the metaphor of sorting seeds mean?
How do fairy tales instill in a girl the expectation of love as happiness?
What is women's happiness?
How to “unfreeze” love in yourself?
What is female power and its source?
Why are feelings of guilt and resentment dangerous?
What fairy-tale images do modern women most often try on?
Who are Cinderellas, Snow Whites, Little Red Riding Hoods, Snow Queens, Gerdas in modern life?
How not to turn from a source of love into a source of pain?

4. Webinar answering questions and clarifying information from video lectures (recording of the webinar - 46 minutes). Analysis of specific fairy tales and specific cases of the influence of fairy tales on children.

You will learn:

How can you use three little pigs to teach a boy to weigh his strength in the fight against the enemy, and use beans to teach a girl to be picky about her suitors?
Which fairy tales should boys read and which should girls read?
How to read fairy tales to children, how to read “girly” fairy tales to boys, and how to read “boyish” fairy tales to girls.
How to read fairy tales if your family has children of different sexes?
What do we - adults - need to know about masculinity and femininity in order to be happy in our lives and raise happy children?
How not to live your life in the scenario of Little Red Riding Hood or the Snow Queen?
How to correct a child’s gender-inappropriate behavior with the help of a fairy tale?
and much more.

For parents- mothers, fathers, grandmothers, grandfathers - who love their kids and care about their happiness and health,
For teachers of kindergartens and children's centers, those interested in fairy tale therapy and wishing to use fairy tales in raising children,
For teachers of family clubs and associations.

Author

Winner of the Moscow Grant award in Education (2009)
Winner of the All-Russian Professional Skills Competition "Teacher-psychologist of Russia"(2009) and the “Professional Vocation” competition.
Practicing child psychologist, specialist in child-parent relations, masters fairy tale therapy and art therapy techniques, author of psychological and pedagogical development programs for children.
Has more than 30 publications on the topic of psychological development of children
Takes part as a specialist - child psychologist in the television programs "Mom's School" First educational TV channel.
Head of the psychological department of the Center for Natural Development and Child Health.
Member of the expert council of the All-Russian Toy Expertise to "Expertise for children".
Mother two adult children.
Editor of the magazine - family and pedagogical almanac "Children's Question"

Webinar materials design and organization- Valasina Asya, host of the Internet Workshop of educational games “Through the game - to success!”, author of the site “Native Path”, candidate of pedagogical sciences.

For any questions, please contact: valasina@site

We wish you creative inspiration, new fairy tales, joyful communication with your kids and successful solution of their problems with the help of fairy tales!

See you on the course!

Candidate of Pedagogical Sciences.

See you again on the "Native Path"!

Evening has fallen outside the window,
Shaded the colors of the day,
Shrouded the city in a gentle sleep,
The kingdom of Fairy Tales has arrived again...

He will grow wiser in the Fairy Tale
And stronger and kinder in spirit.
After all, the one who loves fairy tales since childhood,
He will never be evil again in life!

We all love fairy tales since childhood. After all, a fairy tale is a treasury of folk wisdom, a set of unwritten rules, norms and laws developed by people andintroduced into fairy tales. For many adults, one of the brightest childhood memories is that they were once read fairy tales. And each of us had our own favorites, which we could listen to an endless number of times. Immersion in a magical world, where it is said that work ennobles a person, where you can create happiness yourself, you just need to make an effort, where goodness is rightfully rewarded.

Since our life is multifaceted, the plots of folk tales are diverse.

Tales about animals, relationships between people and animals

Children under five years old identify themselves with animals and try to be like them. Therefore, these fairy tales best convey life experience to children.

Everyday tales

These tales tell about the vicissitudes of family life, show ways to resolve conflict situations, and talk about little family tricks. These tales are suitable for teenage children.

Scary tales, horror stories.

By living through an alarming situation in a fairy tale, children are relieved of tension and acquire new ways of reacting..

Fairy tales

They carry information about the spiritual development of a person. They are interesting for those over 6-7 years old

The role of fairy tales in a child’s life is very great. A fairy tale for a child is not just a fantasy, but a special reality. It helps to understand the world of human feelings and to master the most important moral concepts. Following the twists and turns of the plot, the little man empathizes with the characters and tries to organize his complex feelings. At the same time, he comprehends the meaning of such concepts as good and evil.
Most fairy tales express the eternal search for happiness. All the exploits of heroes, the miraculous transformations of heroes and the activity of magical assistants are only necessary conditions for achieving it.

Only those who do not stop at any difficulties find happiness.
The very construction of the fairy tale - an expressive opposition of good and evil, images that are understandable in its essence, the dynamics of events that are understandable to a child, the results of various characteristic actions, multiple repetitions - this makes the fairy tale interesting and incredibly exciting for kids.

The imagination of a five-year-old child allows him to perceive fantastic fairy-tale images as real. He loves Santa Claus and expects a New Year's gift from him, is afraid of Baba Yaga and feels sorry for the Little Mermaid. Why does he have this ability so clearly?

Children lack life experience, and they can only solve constantly arising problems using their imagination. They replace children’s lack of knowledge and help them feel confident in our complex, changing world.
Childhood, according to psychologists, is the defining period for the formation of imagination. And the more successfully it develops, the easier the child masters school wisdom.

A fairy tale activates the imagination. Thanks to it, the child’s consciousness is not only enriched with new knowledge and ideas, the main thing arises - a new attitude towards people, events and phenomena.

A distinctive feature of many fairy tales is the element of transformation. It can take the form of the hero’s embodiment in another person, animal or object. It is important that in the process of such transformations the hero, remaining himself, acquires additional qualities: he can dive to the bottom of the sea, soar into the skies like a falcon, prowl through a dense forest like a gray wolf, etc. It is in fairy tales that the child masters the ability to “get used to the world of another person.” This will be very useful in later life.

Thanks to empathy and sympathy for another person, the ground is created for tolerance, acceptance, pity and love for him. This is how the fear of insecurity and loneliness is overcome.
The motif of the unity of man and nature plays a special role in fairy tales. Coming to us from time immemorial, the fairy tale reflects the sense of community with nature inherent in people of those ancient times. Therefore, nature in fairy tales often sympathizes with the heroes, protecting and comforting them (an evil witch drowned Alyonushka in a pond, no one noticed, only the flowers began to wither in the garden, the trees began to dry out, and the grasses began to fade). From this merging with nature, love and pity for all living things is born: plants, animals, people.

Through a fairy tale, you can learn about such experiences and thoughts of a child that they themselves are not yet clearly aware of or that children are embarrassed to discuss with adults. For example, you can find out about the child’s attitude towardsparents' divorce. Tell your child how a strong wind caused a nest to fall to the ground, in which three birds were sleeping - dad, mom and chick. The adult birds scattered into different branches. Ask what the chick will do. Most often, children say that the chick will fly to mom or dad, or will call for help, and the parents will fly to it. If a child says that the chick will die from hunger, cold, rain, will remain on the ground and someone will step on it, then this is a sign of the child’s hidden anxiety and requires special attention and proper conversation with him. You need to find a way out through a fairy tale, figuring out together with your child how to help the chick, saying everything child's anxiety , perhaps involve both parents in the conversation.

If you notice that your child has some kind of emotional problem (for example, he is irritable, rude, capricious or aggressive), then a fairy tale with its characters, their adventures and exploits can help your child solve this problem. First, we must describe a hero who is similar to a child in age and character, and then tell the fairy tale in such a way that the child can see himself in the main character. Next, you should describe a problematic situation that is similar to the child’s real situation, and attribute all the child’s experiences to the hero. After this, the fairy-tale hero (and with him the child) begins to look for a way out of this situation and, of course, finds it.

Fairy tales are very important in education, as they help to unobtrusively correct children's behavior. For example: a child who likes to lie about trifles should read the fairy tale “The Braggart Hare.” For the frivolous and playful - “The Adventures of Dunno”; It will be useful for a selfish and greedy child to listen to the fairy tale “About the Fisherman and the Fish”; for the timid and timid - the tale of the “Cowardly Hare”, etc. Just don’t explicitly point out the hero’s resemblance to a child—the kid will draw his own conclusions. Just discuss the fairy tale together.

When reading fairy tales, you should adhere to the following rules:

read fairy tales expressively, taking into account punctuation marks, use intonation (exclamations, surprise, admiration);
explain the meaning of words that are incomprehensible and unknown to the child;
discuss the content of the fairy tale together; it will be good if the child tries to retell it;
answer the questions that the child has after reading the fairy tale.

Fairy tale therapy - This is the process of forming a connection between fairy-tale events and real life. This is the process of transferring fairy-tale meanings into reality. When discussing a fairy tale, the main task is to lead the child to the fact that the phenomena of our life are ambiguous. To do this, you can turn the fairy-tale situation like a crystal and examine its edges. As a rule, the shorter the tale, the more concentrated its meaning.

It’s impossible not to mention the benefitspsychocorrectional tales. Foreign psychologists call them psychotherapeutic stories. As a rule, fairy tale therapy is a process of environmental education and child upbringing. There is no need to “pressure”, there is no need to strain while reading morals to the child. You can simply tell a fairy tale, for example: “Once upon a time there was a girl like you...”. When creating psychocorrectional tales, it is important to know the hidden reason for “bad behavior.” You can simply read these fairy tales to your child without discussing them. By doing this we will give him the opportunity to be alone with himself and think. In any case, the fairy tale sinks into the soul, even if there is no external reaction. If a child does not want to listen to a fairy tale, guessing that it is about him, then we can say that you are simply reading the fairy tale out loud, for yourself. If you wish, you can play out the fairy tale using dolls.

If you decide to invent psychocorrective tales (psychotherapeutic stories) yourself, you can use the following scheme.

think about the problem that is bothering your child. Try to understand how this situation is perceived from a child's point of view;
formulate the main idea of the story. What thoughts do you want to convey to your child? What solutions do you want to offer him?
start a fairy tale by introducing a hero or heroine who has similar problems, fears, anxieties, conflicts;
mention the strengths and positive traits in which the hero of the fairy tale is similar to your child;
first describe the problem, the conflict, and then move on to its positive resolution;
When telling a story, be open to your child. Notice when he is interested in the story and when he is bored. You can determine your reaction to what you read by your facial expression.
answer your child’s questions and don’t leave them unattended. If you find it difficult to answer, you can ask the child what he himself thinks about this;
strive for simplicity. Adapt the language you use, your vocabulary to your child’s level, and the length of the story to the degree of stability of his attention;
do not be embarrassed by your speech clumsiness, and if you discover your mistakes, feel free to correct them, saying, for example: “Oh, I almost forgot...”. The child will correct you with a sympathetic look: “Poor mommy, she can’t even remember the story well.” But this will not reduce their enjoyment of the story or fairy tale, and the benefits of its use.

A fairy tale is one of the most accessible means of the full development of every child. It was, is, and will be so for many, many years. The role of fairy tales in the lives of children should not be underestimated - a correctly selected fairy tale has a positive effect on the emotional state of the child, corrects and improves his behavior, and also develops the child’s self-confidence and abilities.

In all centuries, at all times, people have helped each other. Someone finds himself in a difficult situation, is confused, does not know what to do next - how good it is if there are those who will help with advice, a kind word or deed. The story “Help a friend” is about those who helped in time.

Once upon a time there were two hedgehogs, two friends, one was called Squishy, and the other was Smarty. The hedgehogs' friendship began a long time ago. Clever Man liked that Squishy always believed in his strength. And Squishy was glad that Clever Man knew how to share his friend’s joy, and did not laugh at his shortcomings, of which Squishy had plenty. He knew about them himself.

Yes, Squishy was afraid of unfamiliar sounds, was sometimes careless, and, most importantly, did not know how to stand up for himself. Clever Hedgehog tried to help his friend get rid of his shortcomings, but it was not so easy to do.

One day, Clever Hedgehog was walking along the path and whistling something cheerfully.

“I’ll go see Squishy,” he thought.

But Khlyupsik was not at home. The wise guy did not find a friend either in the house, or in the pantry, or in the yard.

-Where did Squishy go? - Smart the hedgehog said out loud.

“I saw,” said Beauty the magpie flying past, “how your friend was talking with some unfamiliar wolf, whose black tail ends in white fluff.” Your friend and the wolf - all hee-hee-hee yes ha-ha-ha. Apparently, after that your friend disappeared.

- Where is he, my trusting friend, my dear Squishy? - the hedgehog groaned. - What to do, where to find him?

“Well, okay,” said the magpie Beauty, “I’ll fly and see, maybe I’ll meet this wolf with white fluff somewhere.”

And she flew. At the foot of the Green Mountain, the magpie met the wolf it was looking for. Magpie Beauty quickly flew towards the hedgehog. Clever Hedgehog set off on the road, and the magpie showed him the way.

Having reached Green Mountain, the hedgehog Clever hid and began to watch the wolf. The wolf wandered back and forth and suddenly went somewhere.

“Probably headed to his house, which is called the “den,” the hedgehog thought.

And exactly. The wolf house turned out to be well camouflaged.

“It’s a good shelter,” thought Smart Hedgehog.

And suddenly he heard some strange sounds. Either someone snorted angrily, or groaned, or grinned. And suddenly it dawned on Smart Guy:

- This is Squishy! He's locked up somewhere and he's snorting.

“Are you going to tell me where your whole hedgehog family hid?” – Smart Guy suddenly heard.

“So that’s why the unfamiliar wolf didn’t eat Squishy,” thought Smart Guy. “He decided to find out from him where his family was hiding so that he could feast on everyone!”

Squishy did not answer the wolf’s menacing question.

“We urgently need to save Squishy,” decided the Smarty Hedgehog. - But how?

And then one thought came to Smart Man’s head. He quietly called out to the magpie Beauty and she flew up to him.

- Fly, call your sisters here. And then shout out loud:

— Hedgehogs are celebrating a holiday at Strawberry Glade! And everything like that. The wolf will run there, and here we will unlock Squishy and run home.

So they did. Soon Khlyupsik was released. He realized that the salvation occurred thanks to the cunning plan of the hedgehog Clever and the help of the forty sisters. He, of course, thanked the magpie Beauty and her sisters. And the hedgehog said to Smarty:

- Thanks you're a real friend! Helped me out of trouble.

What about the wolf?

He came to Strawberry Field, and there was no one there!..