Promise to make up and don't fight anymore. Tradition of reconciliation with little fingers

It is not those who do not know how to swear that live happily and long, but those who know how to make peace.

Remember yourself as a child...

When the trees were huge, when mother's smell was the most fragrant in the world, when tears had the ability to evaporate from one mother's kiss, when making peace with friends was so easy...

You just had to grab each other’s little fingers and be sure to cast the well-known spell. This:

Make up, make up and don't fight anymore.

And if you fight , then I'll bite .

And there’s nothing to do with biting , I'll fight with a brick .

And the brick will break , friendship begins

And even if before this, the resentment was simply bursting at you, and tears flowed in a stream, this ritual instantly produced a magical effect: the tears dried up, the resentment evaporated, and a smile of reconciliation appeared on the faces.

With this small ritual we dedicated ourselves to being “friends”. After that, it was impossible to sulk, take offense, just like offend. Real friends don't do that.

Still, a child’s concept of decency and honor always delights me. There was no need for papers signed by lawyers, there was enough of an oath spoken together and a shake of just the little fingers.

Yes, childhood is golden... Everything was resolved so simply.

So where did this tradition of pinky reconciliation come from, and why does it have such an impact on people?

According to experts, the heart meridian passes through the little finger. Therefore, an oath that is taken in this way is given with all the heart.

Now the tradition of tying the little fingers of those getting married with a red ribbon becomes clear. Two hearts together for life.

Astrologers claim that the little finger is under the protection of Mercury, the planet of trade and business.

Therefore, in ancient times, this particular gesture was like a seal on an agreement between traders. They swore an oath to fulfill the agreement concluded between them in exactly this way - by clasping their little fingers. And such an oath could not be broken under any circumstances.

If this promise was broken, then no one else wanted to deal with the merchant. They said that such a merchant was not worth even a little finger of honor.

Time passes, we are getting old, we are already watching how our grandchildren make peace with the help of this time-tested method.

And the question arises... why previously, in order to comply with something, it was necessary to simply give a word, uttered simply by looking directly into each other’s eyes. And as we get older, we try to protect ourselves with a bunch of pieces of paper…. Yes, just in case.

Either the promises have become cheap, or there is something wrong with us.

And why then do we remember with nostalgia our serious childhood oath:

Finger by finger
Let's take it firmly
We used to fight
And now for nothing.

In life, sometimes it happens that you feel guilty, but something prevents you from approaching a person and asking for forgiveness. Probably our pride, which we have grown over the years of our lives.

Then you can try to extend your little finger to the person for reconciliation...

Do not be afraid, the memory of childhood is the strongest and fairest. This man probably also put up with his little finger in this way when he was a child.

This does not mean that his offense will immediately go away, but believe me, this gesture will help soften this offense, make it not so sharp and piercing. And if he extends his little finger to you, you are lucky; childhood has become your helper and peacemaker.

I would like to say one such wonderful Leopoldian banality: let's live together, guys.

I am always glad to see you on the pages of the site

“Make peace, make peace,

and don't fight anymore"

Prepared by:

educational psychologist

Dosaeva V.M.

Engels

2016

Target: develop feelings of kindness, empathy and tolerance in children. Develop the ability to find methods of interaction.

Material and equipment:sheets of paper, paints, cartoons, multimedia equipment.

Progress:

Teacher-psychologist:welcomes children.

And here we are again together.

Are you happy, kids?

We greet each other:

And you, and you, and me.

Teacher-psychologist:We have gathered today to talk about friendship, how to do everything together, live in harmony, negotiate, love and respect each other. Now let’s look at part of the cartoon (cartoon “Teddy Bear”). After watching, talk about the cartoon.

Educational psychologist: And all people in the world sometimes have situations when they quarrel with their family or friends. At this moment they feel very sad, offended, sometimes they even get angry with others. Do you think quarrels are necessary?

Children: Quarreling is bad. When you quarrel with someone, it can be unpleasant.

Teacher-psychologist:How does a person feel when he quarrels with someone?

Children: He is worried, doesn’t want to do anything, is sad, and may even cry.

Teacher-psychologist:And the one with whom he quarreled?

Children: He also feels bad and not happy. He thinks that he needs to make peace somehow.

Teacher-psychologist:If both feel bad, is it possible to make sure that quarrels don’t happen at all?

Children: You can ask how the other wants, how he likes to do, how he likes to do.

Teacher-psychologist:Why do we do everything differently?

Children: Because we are all different, not alike.

Teacher-psychologist:That's right, we are different in behavior, character, intelligence and other qualities. How can you reconcile two quarreling friends? How can they be reconciled?

Children recall children's comic “mirilki”:

Make up, make up, make up and don't fight anymore,

And if you fight or call names...

I I will bite, but biting has nothing to do with it

I'll fight with a brick

And I don't want to fight

Because I love.

Matches, matches, you and I are sisters,

Mom red sister - reconciled forever.

Teacher-psychologist:You know a lot of little worlds. I I’ll introduce you to another Mirulka called “Drozd”. Children are divided into pairs.

You are a blackbird and I am a blackbird, pointing at themselves, and

Then to your partner.

My nose and your nose Touch your nose and then

Partner's nose.

My cheeks are smooth and your cheeks are smooth. They stroke their cheeks, and

Then from your playing partner.

I have sweet lips and you have sweet lips. Touches your own first.

Lips with fingers.

I am a friend and you are a friend, together we are friends. They point to themselves and

Then to your partner.

One, two, one, two

You and I are friends now. They hug.

Game "Tender words": Guys, you know kind words, let’s now say kind words to each other in a circle. An educational psychologist shows a sample.

Game "Compliment"- Well done, you did a great job. And now we will compliment each other, how many of you know what compliments are? Let's say a compliment to our neighbor, and he will thank and compliment his neighbor on the right.

Teacher-psychologist:conclusions - You yourself can now evoke love for yourself, create a good mood for yourself and others - by saying pleasant words, doing good deeds. You are strong, reliable, skillful! Friends are those who are always there for you and with whom you feel good together. It's good to have friends nearby!

Teacher-psychologist:Guys, I want to tell you a story about the friendship of 2 flowers.

It was a long time ago. Once upon a time there were two colors in the world - yellow and blue. Yellow was very proud of the fact that he was the same as the sun and like the sand on the seashore in clear sunny weather. Not far from yellow lived blue. He also considered himself very important and did not want to yield to the color yellow in anything.

So they lived, arguing with each other about which of them was more important.

I the most important, because the sun is the same color as me!

No, I'm the most important! Look - the sky is blue and the sea is blue. You can't do it without me!

So they argued and argued, and one day they almost had a fight. But at that moment the wind blew and mixed the yellow and blue colors.

This is how the green color was born, and from it - grass, flowers, trees! And the world has become so good: now the sea, the sun, the sky, and the grass - everything is colorful! And yellow and blue realized that they were wrong, that each of them is good in their own way and that if they are friends, green will appear, and now no one can do without it! (During reading, the teacher psychologist shows the “monotype” technique)

Teacher-psychologist: I I suggest you yourself try to make yellow and blue colors together and see if they really make friends.

(children do practical work)

Teacher-psychologist:Well done guys, today we talked about friendship and how to be friends correctly, how to make peace, we even made friends with colors.

Parting.

It's good to have a friend next to you,

I love his smile and the warmth of his hands.

My friend always plays with me

Understands and forgives.

I miss him so much!

It's good to have a friend next to you!

Children are children! Their mood changes at the speed of light! Either they are inseparable, they are friends and adore each other, then everything changes suddenly and they are already fighting and offended. Children's conflicts occur very often. This usually happens because of little things (as it seems to us adults). But for a child, the cause of the conflict is the most real and serious. Children actually do not know how to get out of conflict situations; they use force, screaming and crying, and complain to adults. Our task as loving parents is to help children find a way out of this situation, to set an example of how to resolve conflicts correctly and how to remain friends after this conflict.

In addition, to find a solution, you also need to make peace. And folklore is best suited for this. Namely, funny children's poems. We have collected for you the 10 best poems created specifically for making peace. Choose a few of them that you and your child like best, and memorize them so that you can recall and use them at the right time.

Usually, while reciting the verse, children hold hands or interlock their fingers (two little fingers) and hold the “lock” until the end of the verse. But you can come up with these movements yourself. The main thing is that after the playdate the children run and continue playing together!

***
The sun will come out from behind the clouds,
A warm ray will warm us.
And we can't swear,
Because we are friends.

***
Once! - make peace!
Two! - make peace!
And don't fight with me!
Three - they asked for forgiveness!
At four - everything was forgotten!
Five! - you can’t be pouty:
We are friends again now!

***
I put up, put up, put up.
And I don't fight anymore.
Well, what if I fight,
I'll end up in a dirty puddle.

***
Why swear and tease?
It's better for us to put up with you!
Let's smile together
Songs to sing and dance,
Swim in the lake in summer
And pick strawberries
Ice skating in winter
Make babies, play snowballs,
Divide the candy between two people
All the problems and secrets.
It's very boring to live in a quarrel,
So let's be friends!

***
Don't fight, don't fight
Come on, make peace quickly!

***
Finger by finger
Let's take it firmly.
We used to fight
And now it doesn’t matter.

***
Make up, make up
And don't fight anymore.
And if you fight,
I will bite.
And we can't bite
Because we are friends.

***
Make up, make up
And don't fight anymore.
And if you fight,
I will bite.
Mom will come
It'll hit both of us.

***
Make up, make up
Don't fight anymore
And then grandma will come,
It will hurt your ears.

***
Let's put up with you
And share everything.
And who will not put up,
Let's not deal with that.

***
To make the sun smile
Tried to warm you and me,
You just need to become kinder
And let us make peace soon!

***
We've had enough of being angry already.
Everyone around is having fun!
Let's make peace quickly:
- You are my friend!
- And you are my friend!
We will forget all the insults
And we will be friends as before!

Make up, make up, make up
And don't fight anymore.
And if you fight,
Then I will bite.
And we can't bite
Because we are friends

Let's all make peace

Let's all make peace
Share toys.
And who will not put up -
Let's not deal with that

Girlfriends

Let's not quarrel, girlfriends,
We are so sad without each other!

Don't fight

Don't fight, don't fight
Come on, make up quickly

Stop being angry

We've had enough of being angry already.
Let's make peace quickly:
- You are my friend!
- And I'm your friend!
We will forget all the insults
And we will be friends as before!

Warm ray

The sun will come out from behind the clouds,
A warm ray will warm us.
And we can't swear,
Because we are friends.

Let's be friends

Why swear and tease
It's better for us to put up with you!
It's very boring to live in a quarrel,
Therefore - let's be friends!

Finger by finger

Finger by finger
Let's take it firmly
We used to fight
And now for nothing.

Peace-peace forever

Peace-peace forever
You can't quarrel anymore
And then grandma will come
And hits the butt

Make peace, make peace - don't fight anymore

Make peace, make peace
Don't fight anymore.
If you fight,
I will bite.
And biting has nothing to do with it,
We'll fight with bricks.
And the brick breaks,
Friendship begins!

Why swear and tease

Why swear and tease?
It's better for us to put up with you!
Let's smile together
Songs to sing and dance,
Swim in the lake in summer
And pick strawberries
Ice skating in winter
Make babies, play snowballs,
Divide the candy between two people
All the problems and secrets.
It's very boring to live in a quarrel,
So let's be friends!

Make peace, make peace
Don't fight anymore.
If you fight,
I will bite.
And biting has nothing to do with it,
We'll fight with bricks.
We don't need a brick
Let's make friends with you!

Make peace, make peace
Don't fight anymore.
If you fight,
I will bite.
And biting has nothing to do with it,
We'll fight with bricks.
And the brick breaks,
Friendship begins!

Make peace, make peace
Don't fight anymore.
If you fight,
I will bite.
And we can't bite
Because we are friends.

Don't fight, don't fight
Come on, make up quickly!

Finger by finger
Let's take it firmly
We used to fight
And now for nothing.

Make peace, make peace
Don't fight anymore
And then grandma will come,
It will hurt your ears.

Let's put up with you
And share everything.
And who will not put up,
Let's not deal with that.

Make peace, make peace
Don't fight anymore.
If you fight,
I will bite.
Mom will come
It'll hit both of us.

Finger by finger

Mirilka Finger by finger
Finger by finger
Let's take it firmly
We used to fight
And now for nothing.

Don't fight, don't fight

Mirilka Don't fight, don't fight
Don't fight, don't fight
Come on, make up quickly!

Make up, make up

Mirilka Make up, make up
Make up, make up
Don't fight anymore.
If you fight,
I will bite.
And biting has nothing to do with it,
We'll fight with bricks.
We don't need a brick
Let's make friends with you!

Peace in peace

Peace in peace,
dumplings with cheese,
pies with butter,
and we are friends forever!

A hedgehog walks in the forest

A hedgehog walks in the forest -
Red mullet on the nose!
The hedgehog waves his hand at her,
And she sings and dances!
If you want, we are with you
Tomorrow we will also go to the forest
And such a red mullet
We'll definitely find it!

After a quarrel

How good is that! -
Don't rush anywhere
Don't be silent and don't get angry -
So just next to mom,
To go next to my mother,
See the sun in the sky
And - carry it home!

To make the sun smile
Tried to warm you and me,
You just need to become kinder
And let us make peace soon!

We've had enough of being angry already.
Everyone around is having fun!
Let's make peace quickly:
-You are my friend!
-And you are my friend!
We will forget all the insults
And we will be friends as before!