conditions change for the better. What if I don't have a degree or it's useless? Exercise "mental representation"

At one fine moment in my life, I realized that something was missing in me: it seems that you live, but something is not right and wrong. I looked at myself from the outside and in the mirror, went through one strong training on my own, read a couple of developing books. I came to the disappointing conclusions that I have a bunch of bad habits, I hardly devote time to my health, I am not popular with girls, my level of disorganization goes off scale, and besides, I often get away from solving complex life tasks.

It doesn't matter how many days are in your life, what matters is how much life is in your days!

Sport

It all starts with its implementation in your life. We start with basic exercises, but they must be performed every day. These are simple exercises: squats, on the press (raising the torso), push-ups. It all starts with a repetition of 5 times and every day increases by 1 time, you can perform two visits per day. In a month, you will squat 35 times, do ab exercises 35 times, and do push-ups 35 times. Then you can increase the number of repetitions as needed, but be sure to do it every day.

Each person needs to find his own sport, and you should not be led by fashion: everyone runs, which means running, everyone does yoga, which means yoga. Look for your sport that will suit you completely: loads, interest, time, financial component, people. It should be an extension of your essence.

I tried for a year, gym, boxing, running, jiu-jitsu, aikido, cycling. At the same time, he was engaged in several types for several months. It was a great time, because it was an absolute benefit for my health, and I also understood more and more what exactly I want from sports.

My choice fell on jiu-jitsu and swimming is the basis of my sports development. Now this is for life, because the pleasure that I get in the classroom is difficult to put into words, and my success in this field only reinforces this conviction.

Books

You will have to read a lot. An excellent result is 40–50 books per year. I have read 42 books and I understand that 50 books a year is realistic. The main thing is to read without stopping. And, of course, do not watch TV and do not stay too long on social networks.

Read only to develop your mind: psychology, Russian and foreign classics, self-development, finance - no tabloid or entertaining books.

Outline the essence of what you read, what impressed or disliked the book, memorize quotes. So you train your memory and you can always surprise your interlocutors with smart sayings from books.

Ayn Rand's book Atlas Shrugged greatly influenced me with its fundamental nature and strong dialogues, as well as situations similar to events from my life.

My morality, the morality of reason, is contained in one axiom: reality exists in one choice - to live. Everything else flows from here. To live, a person must consider three things as the highest and decisive values: Reason, Purpose, Self-Respect. Reason as the only tool of knowledge, Goal as the choice of happiness, which this tool should achieve, Self-respect as an indestructible confidence that he is able to think and his personality is worthy of happiness, which means worthy of life. These three values require all the virtues of man, and all his virtues are connected with the relation of existence and consciousness: rationality, independence, purity, honesty, justice, efficiency, pride.
Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged

Discipline

What distinguishes a strong personality from an ordinary person is this. Regardless of your mood, motivation, external circumstances, family relationships, do what is necessary at a given time.

Learn to swim against the current of life circumstances, educate yourself so that the internal state does not depend on what is happening around. It was very hard and not everything worked out right away, as there were breakdowns. But I went forward again and again with the support of loved ones and an inner desire to go this way at all costs.

Where can you start? From the morning ritual. Here is the simplest and most effective method for honing discipline: get up immediately at the wake of the alarm clock, wash your face, turn on the music, do exercises with strength exercises, then a contrast shower, a healthy breakfast (without fried and sweet) and reading a book (you can on the way to the office) .

So you need to do until you can do it automatically and without forcing yourself. It took me 3 months, sometimes, of course, there were failures, especially after overloaded days. I recommend to anyone who wants to change their lifestyle to develop their own morning ritual.

We must learn to control ourselves: our speech, gait, gaze and gestures. Wherever you are, at home, at work, in the gym, you should radiate confidence and act without too much fuss. Remember the principle of feedback: even if you don’t feel like that, this feeling of confidence and discipline will come.

A very useful exercise for developing inner strength - despite all your natural fears, do not look away from the interlocutor, from people passing by who look into your eyes. Frankly, martial arts helped me in this. But it is also good to look with a warm look, showing that you are benevolent.

To educate myself, I learned to deny myself pleasures: bars, alcohol, sweets, cigarettes, impulsive shopping, idleness, empty talk at work. This may not happen right away, but we need to think about it all the time, work in this direction. And one day I said to myself: “Yes, I haven’t had alcohol for three months and I haven’t eaten sweets for two months.”

I attended sports classes or courses despite my mood, circumstances, weather and my motivation. Set a schedule and stick to it, discard all your favorite excuses. I liked coming to the hall when something was stopping others and when there were like-minded people who were ready to support me in these endeavors.

And most importantly - you need to learn to control yourself when little is working out, and a mess is going on around. Be an island of calm and cold endurance.

Finance

Keep a financial journal. Lead it for a month, second, third and do not stop. And do not just keep it, but analyze every month what goes where, why and how to fix it.

I had big expenses for coffee - 1,300 rubles a month. I realized that it was time to reduce its amount, and now the level of spending on coffee is 600 rubles per month. Coffee is my weakness that I don't want to get rid of.

Many say that a magazine is a useless thing: "I already know how much I spend and earn." And you try to keep it for 1 year with accurate analysis and graphs and you will see the whole picture of your financial literacy or illiteracy.

Keep yourself in financial asceticism, stop buying what you don’t need or is imposed by advertising and acquaintances. Most of our purchases are useless and will not be useful in life, and it is quite easy to do without them.

Find additional income, even if it is small, but it will motivate you to achieve even greater achievements. Let it be an increased workload, additional work (of any format), freelancing, selling unnecessary things, teaching other people. The mistake of the majority - everyone wants a lot of money at the initial stages, but this does not happen. You do not immediately earn a lot at work, and in life everything is gradual.

Relationship

This point is more about men who have not found their soul mate or even do not want to, which I was. If you are alone and have a lot of time, develop the skill of meeting girls. Register on dating sites, meet in cafes and on the street, chat in the gym, ask friends about girls you know.

Try different communication strategies: gentleman, macho, modest, sports guy. Meet girls smarter than you, admit it, conquer them.

In various situations, not everything will work out: wrong words, wrong method, not your person, failures in bed. But you do not stop, it should temper you.

And over time, you will learn to understand the opposite sex, learn how to easily start a conversation, make beautiful compliments. Girls will often reciprocate, they will feel an interesting personality in you. But do not be self-confident, look for the one who will appreciate your qualities "without cuts", and be faithful and faithful to her.

If it's simple - love, suffer, conquer, disperse and start anew. Become the one with whom you want to spend time, with whom you will be comfortable in any situation, be able to understand and listen to the other person. And remember that your significant other can always leave you, so enjoy every moment together.

Skills

Start developing skills you didn't have before, such as breaststroke, typing, contextual planning, emergency driving. Master them, find a mentor on the topic, get training. Such achievements develop the personality, make it multifaceted.

You will also learn how to deliberately step out of your comfort zone and overcome fear, which will later become your driving force. All great achievements begin with small victories over yourself.

In the past 12 months, I have been doing things I have never done before: heavy weight training, meditation, training with children, training, austerity.

Spirituality

Define your values in life, create internal and social rules for yourself, find your "I".

Finally, find the answer to the eternal question: “Why am I here? What is my mission?

How? Ask yourself important questions, do not look at other people who are drifting like a boat in the ocean, become a guide for yourself and others. Read spiritual books, visit spiritual places and, finally, create your own picture of the world order. This is very important, so you will become steadfast and you will have your own faith. Not the one that is shown in the media, but its own inner one.

Most people are afraid to ask themselves difficult questions and close themselves with materialism, like I did in my time, but this is a dead end branch of development. Things and household fuss cannot be closed, they will not give you the happiness that you will feel when you find something important inside that will lead you further.

Good Habits

As you get rid of bad habits and change structurally, you will need other habits - and it is better that they are useful.

For example, if you talk a lot, learn to be silent and listen to the interlocutor, even when your tongue is itching - be silent.

If you eat a lot of sweets, replace it with nuts or dried fruits, do not eat so much chocolate and cookies, drinking sweet tea.

Books are a great rescue from TV and Internet addiction. It's just that the brain doesn't want to "thin" anymore.

If you have nothing planned and everything happens just like that, start a notebook, write down all your tasks for the day, week, month. Write down the thoughts that come to you, fresh ideas, describe events and people. Keep track and analyze your life.

If you smoke, quit and immediately hit a sport, preferably one where the lungs work the most to expel all the resins from yourself.

Algorithm for structural change in 12 months

Sports load every day. Decide on your sport for a long time, do it, no matter what, for a whole year.
Read a lot of books, 3-4 per month. Write down a summary of what you read.
Develop discipline. Deny yourself pleasure. Stay calm when it's stormy. Try to deny yourself something every month.
Develop financial literacy. Keep a financial journal and find extra income throughout the year.
If you are single - look for your soul mate and develop the skill of seduction. If you are not alone, fall in love again with your chosen one.
Learn new skills you didn't know before. Desirable - 1 skill in 2 months.
Find an answer for what you are here for, even an approximate one - it will already be good. Spend as much time on this as you see fit.
Get good habits instead of bad ones. This is everyday work.

Victory over yourself is the true success in life.

Change is difficult, but possible. The main thing is to want to set yourself interesting (and not so) goals and achieve them, no matter what. Everything will not work right away, there will be misfires, breakdowns, but the movement vector must be maintained, and you will definitely break through the barrier of your weakness.

If you think that this requires motivation or money, you are mistaken: you only need one pure desire to become better than you are, and time, which is already so small in our lives. But remember, there is no limit to perfection, this is a constant work on yourself, and it continues until the end of your days. A developed personality lives much happier than those who are weak in front of themselves and recede before life circumstances.

If you have a desire to change your appearance, know that you are not alone in this. This is quite normal for a very large number of people, especially young women. Most likely, you are already beautiful, you just don’t understand it yet. If you learn more confidence and change your appearance to one that best suits your inner self, you can feel completely different and believe in your own beauty!

Steps

Part 1

Personal care

Drink enough water. Drinking enough water helps keep you focused and energized, and it will also help you shed a few extra pounds. To calculate the amount of water you need daily, you need to remember that for every kilogram of your weight you need to consume at least 30 ml of water.

Eat right. Avoid excess sugar, salt, and highly processed foods. Your diet should include the following items.

Squirrels. Healthy protein sources include fish, white meat, legumes, nuts, and eggs.
Healthy fats. Nuts (especially almonds), vegetable oils (extra virgin olive oil is a great option), and fatty vegetables like avocados are great sources of healthy fats.
Whole unprocessed carbohydrates. These include fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and legumes.
Vitamins and minerals. They can be taken as supplements if you know your diet is not providing you with all the vitamins and minerals you need.

Listen to your own body. Drink when you are thirsty and eat when you are hungry. It may take some time to learn to listen to your body's signals if you haven't paid attention to them before, but once you get the hang of it, you'll find it easier to stick to a healthy diet and maybe even lose some weight.
- If you have eaten or drunk something that has given you a headache or feeling sick, take note and try not to use the product in the future, especially if it causes discomfort on a regular basis.
- Notice what foods and drinks make you feel good. Eating a clean diet with enough water and essential nutrients will help you become a healthier and happier person. When you feel healthier and happier, then at the same time you will feel a sense of your own beauty.
Maintain hygiene. Wash and moisturize your face and brush your teeth twice a day. Shower at least every other day and wash your hair when your hair starts to get greasy (this may be required every other day or once a week, as it all depends on the type of hair).
- If you have acne on your face or back, you may need to wash your hair more often, as oils from your hair can be transferred to your face, neck, and back, causing acne.
- To keep your teeth healthy and strong, you should visit your dentist every six months.
- Maintaining hygiene will help you feel fresh and attractive every day. Try to pay attention to yourself every day, even if you are not in the mood.
Keep a diary daily. Regular journaling can reduce anxiety, stress, and depression. This helps to analyze problems and strengthen self-esteem. Try to devote 20 minutes a day to your diary.
- Keep a diary, even if you have nothing to say. You can write that you have nothing to say and see where this thought takes you further. Often something immediately pops up in memory, sometimes it even turns out to be something unexpected.
Be an optimist. Most people have an inner voice that often sees the bad in everything and says that a person is not good enough at something. You can fight this with a grateful attitude towards fate and highlighting the positive aspects of what is happening.

Smile. Research has shown that the happier you look, the more attractive you are to other people. In addition, according to research, even in moments of sadness, smiling can lift your spirits.
- If you're upset, try smiling for 30 seconds to cheer yourself up.
Be sure. Gaining self-confidence is easier said than done, however, it is worth working on. Having good self-esteem will make you healthier and happier, which will automatically make you more attractive.

Get enough sleep. If you don't get enough sleep, your brain won't work at full efficiency and you'll have trouble eating a healthy diet, getting exercise, and staying positive and confident.

Part 2
Hairstyle change
1. Cut and/or color your hair. Whether it's a new haircut or a new hair color, changing the look of your hair can drastically affect your overall appearance. Think about hairstyles and hair colors that suit you best.
  - Ask yourself what does your hair say about you? Are you sociable and like to take risks? In this case, maybe you will like a short haircut and multi-colored hair. Are you a more down to earth person and a bit of a hippie? You can go for natural colors and long layered haircuts.
  - Look through hair magazines or search the Internet to find out what hairstyles you like. Hair magazines and books are available at most bookstores.
2. Determine your face type. When changing hairstyles, it is important to consider the shape of the face. Faces are of several types. One way to determine your face type is to trace the contours of its reflection in the mirror with lipstick or eyeliner.
  - Oval faces look balanced and are widest at the center.
  - Square faces have the same width at the eyebrows, cheeks, and jaw.
  - Triangular faces are widened at the bottom and have a prominent jawline.
  - Heart-shaped faces (in the shape of an inverted triangle) have a small chin and wide cheekbones.
  - Round faces look like a fairly regular circle.
  - Diamond-shaped faces are slightly angular and wider at the cheekbones than at the eyebrows and jaws.
  - Elongated faces are almost the same width from forehead to jaw, which makes them look longer.
3. Determine which hairstyle best suits your face type. To make your hair look its best, choose a hairstyle based on your face type.
  - Most haircuts suit oval faces, however, hairstyles that emphasize length can make the face appear elongated.
  - Square faces look best with hair length below the jaw line. The owners of such faces should especially avoid such haircuts in which the hair ends at the jaw line, as this makes the face even more square. It is also necessary to avoid hairstyles with clear straight lines, for example, you should not use a bob haircut or even bangs. Side swept bangs and wavy or layered hair framing the face are a good choice in this case.
  - Triangular faces work well with short haircuts to balance a powerful jaw and add volume to the top of the head. If you prefer long hair, it is important that it is longer than the jawline, otherwise the face will appear too full at the bottom.
  - Heart-shaped faces look good with puffed chin-length haircuts (bob haircuts work very well with them). Those with this type of face should avoid thick bangs and short haircuts, as this can make the face look too massive at the top. Tight ponytails and other slicked back hairstyles can accentuate a small chin and should also be avoided.
  - Asymmetrical and layered haircuts work for round faces to help balance the width of the face. With this type of face, chin-length haircuts and even bangs can make the face look fuller, and the same goes for the center parting in the hairstyle. However, an offset parting and side swept bangs will look good!
  - Diamond-shaped faces look good with hairstyles that are quite full on the sides but not on the top. In other words, in this case, high hairstyles should be avoided. This type of face is suitable for bangs and face-framing puff haircuts. However, this requires avoiding the creation of central parting in the hairstyle.
  - Oval faces can appear elongated, so the hairstyle should break up the length of the face. At the same time, wearing too long hair should be avoided. With this type of face, a bob haircut, puff haircut and straight bangs will look good.
4. Take care of the health of your hair. Wash your hair as needed and use a shampoo and conditioner suitable for your hair type (for example, for color-treated, normal, oily hair, etc.). Depending on the type of hair, you can wash them from once every two days to once a week. The drier the hair, the less often it needs to be washed.
Part 3
Applying makeup
1. Use eye makeup to highlight your eyes. You can apply different colors of eyeliner and eyeshadow to make your eyes really stand out.
  - If you have blue eyes, use natural tones like coral and champagne. Dark smoky eyeliner can overshadow your eyes, so it's best to experiment with this at home before going out.
  - Gray or blue-gray eyes look good with dark and smoky shades of grey, blue and silver.
  - Green eyes look great with muted purples and shimmery browns.
  - Light brown or hazel green eyes will look good with metallic and pastel shades. Pale pink, muted copper and golden eye shadows go well with light brown eyes.
  - Brown eyes suit most shades and types of makeup. They look good with neutral shades of orange-pink and golden-bronze. For smoky makeup, you can add a little black eye shadow in the form of arrows on the outer corners of the eyes.
  - A popular smoky eye makeup involves mixing 2-3 tones of shadow on the eyelids to create a gradient transition of color (usually from dark to light in the direction from the eyelid to the eyebrows).
2. Use lipstick. Lipstick is a great tool to highlight the lips and give your image more expressiveness. At the same time, red lipstick is one of the most popular. Everyone can use it. The secret lies in choosing the right shade of red that will suit your skin tone.
  
  Apply lip liner. Apply lip contour before lipstick for long lasting hold. The lip liner can also be used to reshape the lips, making them plumper or thinner, depending on what you want.
3. Make sure your makeup is balanced. Dramatically bright eye makeup combined with equally dramatic bright lips is usually not recommended, as it can be too provocative. If you, for example, applied smoky eye makeup, then make your lips more neutral.
  - If you have used red lipstick, the rest of the makeup should be relatively calm. The classic combination is red lipstick and cat-eye makeup.
  - Similar rules apply to balancing hair color and makeup. For example, fiery red hair can limit the number of color options for lipstick that suits you.
4. Consider applying contour makeup. Contour makeup involves the use of dark and light shades of foundation to visually change the appearance of your face. For example, with contour makeup, you can visually reduce the nose and highlight the cheekbones.
  - Mastering the technique of contour makeup takes some practice, but if you really don't like something about yourself, it's worth a try.
5. Don't forget to wash off your makeup thoroughly. Cosmetics can irritate the skin and lead to breakouts. Thoroughly washing your face at the end of the day and removing any remaining makeup will prevent this from happening.
  - To avoid acne, choose cosmetics that do not clog pores. This will be separately stated on the packaging of the makeup product. However, even when using this cosmetic, rashes on the skin may appear.
  - If you wear a lot of eye makeup, then you may need a special eye makeup remover or coconut oil. With it, you can be guaranteed to completely remove makeup from the eyes before going to bed.

Here's the deal: I've been at zero a few times, come back to life a few times, I've done it over and over again. I started new careers. The people who knew me then don't know me now. And so on.

I started my career from scratch several times. Sometimes - because my interests changed. Sometimes - because all the bridges were burned without a trace, and sometimes because I desperately needed money. And sometimes it was because I hated everyone at my previous job or they hated me.

There are other ways to reinvent yourself, so take my words with a grain of salt. This is what worked in my case. I've seen it work for about a hundred other people. From interviews, from letters that have been written to me over the past 20 years. You can try - or not.

1. Change never ends

Every day you rediscover yourself. You are always on the move. But every day you decide where exactly you are moving: forward or backward.

2. Start with a clean slate

All your past labels are just vanity. Have you been a doctor? An Ivy League graduate? Owned millions? Did you have a family? Nobody cares. You have lost everything. You are zero. Don't try to say that you are more than that.

3. You need a mentor

Otherwise, you will go under. Someone has to show you how to move and breathe. But don't worry about looking for a mentor (see below).

4. Three types of mentors

Straight. Someone who is ahead of you, who will show you how he got it. What does "this" mean? Wait. By the way, the mentors don't look like Jackie Chan's character in The Karate Kid. Most mentors will hate you.

Indirect. Books. Movies. You can get 90% of the instructions from books and other materials. 200-500 books equate to a good mentor. When people ask me, “What is a good book to read?” - I do not know what to answer them. There are 200-500 good books worth reading. I would turn to inspirational books. Whatever you believe in, strengthen your beliefs with daily reading.

Anything can be a mentor. If you are nobody and want to re-create yourself, everything you look at can become a metaphor for your desires and goals. The tree you see, with its roots out of sight and the groundwater that feeds it, is a metaphor for programming if you tie the dots together. And everything you look at will "connect the dots".

5. Don't Worry If Nothing Excites You

You care about your health. Start with it. Take small steps. You don't need passion to succeed. Do your job with love, and success will become a natural symptom.

6. Time it takes to reinvent yourself: five years

Here is a description of those five years.

Year 1: You wallow and read everything and just start doing something.

Year 2: You know who you need to talk to and keep working with. You do something every day. You finally understand what the map of your own game of Monopoly looks like.

Third year: You are good enough to start making money. But so far, perhaps not enough to earn a living.

Fourth year: You provide for yourself well.

Year 5: You make a fortune.

Sometimes I got frustrated in the first four years. I asked myself, "Why hasn't this happened yet?" - He beat his fist on the wall and broke his arm. It's okay, just keep going. Or stop and choose a new field of activity. It doesn't matter. Someday you will die, and then it will be really difficult to change.

7. If you do it too fast or too slow, then something is wrong.

A good example is Google.

8. It's not about the money

But money is a good measure. When people say, "It's not about the money," they need to be sure they have some other unit of measure. "How about just doing what you love?" There will be many days ahead when you don't like what you do. If you are doing it out of pure love, it will take much more than five years. Happiness is just a positive reaction from your brain. Some days you will be unhappy. Your brain is just a tool, it does not define who you are.

9. When can you say, "I'm doing X"? When does X become your new profession?

10. When can I start doing X?

Today. If you want to paint, buy a canvas and paints today, start buying 500 books one by one and paint pictures. If you want to write, do the following three things:

Read

If you want to start your own business, start coming up with an idea for a business. Rebuilding yourself starts today. Every day.

11. When will I earn money?

In a year, you will put 5,000-7,000 hours into this business. That's good enough to put you in the top 200-300 in the world in any major. Getting into the top 200 almost always provides a livelihood. By the third year, you will understand how to make money. By the fourth - you will be able to increase turnover and provide for yourself. Some stop there.

12. By the fifth year, you will be in the top 30-50, so you can make a fortune.

13. How to determine what is mine?

Any area in which you are able to read 500 books. Go to the bookstore and find her. If after three months you get bored, go to the bookstore again. Getting rid of illusions is normal, this is the meaning of defeat. Success is better than failure, but the most important lessons come from failure. Very important: do not rush. During your interesting life, you can change yourself many times. And fail many times. It's fun too. These attempts will turn your life into a story book, not a textbook. Some people want their life to be a textbook. Mine is a story book, good or bad. Therefore, changes occur every day.

14. The decisions you make today will be in your biography tomorrow.

Make interesting decisions and you will have an interesting biography.

15. The decisions you make today will become part of your biology.

16. What if I like something exotic? Biblical archeology or 11th century wars?

Repeat the above steps and by the fifth year you will be rich. We don't know how. There is no need to look for the end of the path when you are only taking the first steps.

17. What if my family wants me to become an accountant?

How many years of your life did you promise to give to your family? Ten? All life? Then wait for the next life. You choose.

Choose freedom, not family. Freedom, not prejudice. Freedom, not government. Freedom, not the satisfaction of other people's requests. Then you will satisfy yours.

18. My mentor wants me to follow his path.

This is fine. Learn his way. Then do it your way. Sincerely.

Luckily no one puts a gun to your head. Then you would have to comply with his demands until he lowers the gun.

19. My husband (wife) is worried: who will take care of our children?

A person who changes himself always finds free time. Part of changing yourself is finding moments and reshaping them the way you would like to use them.

20. What if my friends think I'm crazy?

What are these friends?

21. What if I want to be an astronaut?

It's not about changing yourself. This is a specific profession. If you like space, there are many professions. Richard Branson wanted to be an astronaut and created Virgin Galactic.

22. What if I enjoy drinking and hanging out with friends?

Read this post again in a year.

23. And if I'm busy? Am I cheating on my spouse or betraying my partner?

Read this post again in two or three years, when you are broke, out of work, and everyone will turn their backs on you.

24. What if I can't do anything at all?

Read point 2 again.

25. What if I don't have a diploma or it's useless?

Read point 2 again.

26. What if I need to focus on paying off a mortgage or other loan?

Read point 19 again.

27. Why do I always feel like an outsider?

Albert Einstein was an outsider. No one in authority would have hired him. Everyone feels like an impostor sometimes. The greatest creativity is born out of skepticism.

28. I can't read 500 books. Name one book to read for inspiration

Then you can immediately give up.

29. What if I'm too sick to change myself?

The change will boost the production of beneficial substances in your body: serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin. Move forward, and you may not get well at all, but you will get healthier. Don't use health as an excuse.

Finally, rebuild your health first. Sleep more. Eat better. Go in for sports. These are the key steps to change.

30. What if my partner set me up and I'm still suing him?

Drop the lawsuit and never think about him again. Half the problem was you.

31. And if they put me in jail?

Wonderful. Re-read point 2. Read more books in prison.

32. And if I'm a timid person?

Make weakness your strength. Introverts are better at listening and concentrating, they know how to arouse sympathy.

33. What if I can't wait five years?

If you plan to stay alive in five years, you can start today.

34. How to make contacts?

Build concentric circles. You must be in the middle. The next circle is friends and family. Then there are online communities. Then - people whom you know from informal meetings and tea parties. Then - conference participants and opinion leaders in their field. Then there are mentors. Then - customers and those who make money. Start making your way through these circles.

35. What if my ego gets in the way of what I do?

After six months or a year, you will return to point 2.

36. What if I am passionate about two things at once? And I can't choose?

Combine them and you will be the best in the world for this combination.

37. What if I'm so passionate that I want to teach others what I'm learning myself?

Read lectures on YouTube. Start with a one-person audience and see if it grows.

38. What if I want to earn money in my sleep?

In the fourth year, start outsourcing what you do.

39. How to find mentors and experts?

Once you have accumulated enough knowledge (after 100-200 books), write 10 ideas for 20 different potential mentors.

None of them will answer you. Write 10 more ideas for 20 new mentors. Repeat this every week.

40. What if I can't come up with ideas?

Then practice it. The mental muscles tend to atrophy. They need to be trained.

It will be difficult for me to reach my toes if I don't exercise every day. I have to do this exercise every day for some time before this posture comes easily to me. Don't expect good ideas from day one.

42. What if I do everything you say, but it still doesn't seem to work?

It will turn out. Just wait. Keep changing yourself every day.

Don't try to find the end of the path. You can't see it in the fog. But you can see the next step, and you will understand that if you take it, you will eventually reach the end of the path.

43. What if I start feeling down?

Sit in silence for an hour a day. You need to get back to your essence.

If you think this sounds stupid, don't do it. Move on with your depression.

44. And if there is no time to sit in silence?

Then sit in silence for two hours a day. This is not meditation. You just have to sit.

45. And if I get scared?

Sleep 8-9 hours a night and never gossip. Sleep is the first secret to good health. Not the only one, but the first. Some people write to me that four hours of sleep is enough for them, or that in their country those who sleep a lot are considered lazy. These people will fail and die young.

When it comes to gossip, our brains are biologically programmed to have 150 friends. And when you hang out with one of your friends, you can gossip about one of the other 150. And if you don't have 150 friends, then the brain will want to read gossip magazines until it looks like it has 150 friends.

Don't be as stupid as your brain.

46. And if everything seems to me that I will never succeed?

Practice gratitude for 10 minutes a day. Don't suppress your fear. Notice your anger.

But also allow yourself to be grateful for what you have. Anger never inspires, but gratitude never inspires. Gratitude is the bridge between your world and the parallel universe where all creative ideas live.

47. And if I constantly have to deal with some kind of personal squabbles?

Find other people to be around.

A person who changes himself will constantly meet people who try to suppress him. The brain is afraid of change - it can be unsafe. Biologically, the brain wants you to be safe, and change is a risk. So your brain will give you people trying to stop you.

Learn to say no.

48. What if I'm happy at my office job?

49. Why should I trust you? You've failed so many times

Don't trust me.

50. Will you be my mentor?

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Modern girls are ready for the most daring changes in their lives, for constant self-improvement. Many people know to become better, smarter, more attractive, sexier, you need to work very hard on your appearance, lifestyle, habits and rules of conduct.

If you are thinking about how to become a better person, a clear plan for 30 days will help you. Every girl can change life for the better! It's not as difficult as it seems.

Some representatives of the beautiful half of humanity need years to change their image, others try to introduce something new into life in a very short time.

In any case, if the result were guaranteed, quite a few people would like to know how to make yourself and your life better in just 30 days girl. In our article, you will learn how to realize this and change radically in just a month. Improve yourself externally and internally.

Change for the better is not as difficult as it seems.

How to become better in a month: a real plan of action

To improve your internal and external data in 30 days, you need to draw up an action plan to work on your appearance and habits.

How to become a better girl in 30 days: a plan for a month
1 Week	2 weeks	3 week	4 week
Get used to getting up early.	Throw away all unnecessary items and things that are not in demand for a long time.	Make a plan for rest and work, doing everything point by point.	Try to do differently than it was before, to learn innovations.
Eat light food.	Finish all planned tasks or abandon unnecessary ones.	Map your dreams.	Fight all your fears.
Daily exercise, dance or yoga.	Stop communicating with people who negatively affect self-esteem (exception: parents).	Every evening make a plan for the coming day.	Rest properly (without the Internet, outside the home, one on one with yourself).

Cosmetic procedures to improve your appearance

To look better, you need to visit a beautician. Elasticity and firmness of the skin support regular facial cleansing, which are:

ultrasonic;
manual;
peeling.

fruit peeling;
mesotherapy;
biorevitalization.

After 30:

correction of small wrinkles with butoloxin;
fillers with hyaluronic acid.

By the age of 40, it is necessary to add volume, freshness, clarity of lines. Recommended procedures:

plasmolifting;
peeling;
revitalization;
laser resurfacing;

Cosmetic procedures are selected strictly according to age and recommendations of a specialist.

Skin, hair and nail care

External changes should touch the hair, skin and nails. Hair should look well-groomed, without split ends (this needs to be monitored). The roots of the hair should be tinted in time, and the remaining length should be refreshed if necessary.

Gelatin-based masks will help improve the condition of the hair for dry structure, with the addition of cognac for oily curls. If the length of the hair allows, you can master the weaving of braids, this will add novelty to the image, besides it is fashionable. For medium length hair, bronding is suitable.

Please note: nails should be regularly maintained. Men do not like peeling manicure, burrs, as well as dirt under the nails.

The stronger sex likes a jacket, red or better transparent varnish. If a girl takes care of her nails every day for 30 days, it will become a habit.

A modern girl does not always manage to do a manicure every day, so you should resort to salon care.. A procedure such as nail lamination has proven itself well. It restores the nail plate, hides all flaws and imperfections.

The nails are covered with a substance that fills all the cavities and deformations. After the procedure, the plates are healed, aesthetics and nutrition return to them. This procedure will improve the appearance of nails, and the preparatory stage in the form of a hand massage will give a feeling of relaxation and complete harmony.

The skin of the face should have an even tone, fresh, well-groomed appearance with emphasizing makeup.. To do this, you need to nourish, moisturize, cleanse and refresh your face daily. This will prolong youth.

Facial products are selected according to skin type. At home in the refrigerator, there should be ice cubes with chamomile, which should be used to wipe the face daily. After a week of such procedures, the skin calms down, the color evens out, freshness appears, fatigue disappears.

A light tan will help you become more attractive. for this, self-tanning or a visit to the solarium is suitable.

How to become better: proper nutrition

The right diet will help you become better: internally and externally.

Healthy eating is the key to a healthy life and good mood

Before starting any meal, for 1/4 hour, you need to drink 200 ml of water.
Every day a girl should drink at least 2 liters of water.
By eliminating junk high-calorie foods for 30 days, you can lose those extra pounds.
The side dishes that existed before this time need to be replaced with vegetable dishes.
Permanently exclude sausages, sausages and other semi-finished products from the diet.
Between meals, the interval should be at least 3 hours, meals should be fractional.
Evening meal should be 2.5 hours before going to bed.
Every week you need to do fasting days.
You can't skip breakfast.
Every day on an empty stomach you need to drink 1 tsp. flax oils.
Bakery products are best replaced with citrus fruits.

It is important to know! it is impossible to drink liquid or water after eating (at least half an hour should pass).

The best diets for weight loss and wellness

To answer the question of how to become better in 30 days, a girl needs to put her figure in order. Various diets will help with this, the most popular of them are soup, kefir and fractional.

Soup diet will help you lose weight quickly

The diet consists of a variety of soups without potatoes, legumes and butter. During the diet, bread should be abandoned. Salt should be used in very small doses. After a seven-day period, you can lose up to 4 kg of excess weight.

Kefir in the fight against extra pounds

This diet is designed for 7 days. During this time, it is easy to lose up to 5 kg of excess weight. For a week, you need to drink 1.5-2 liters of fat-free kefir daily.

Diet Ladder

This diet is designed for 5 days. On the first day, it is necessary to cleanse the intestines (during the day, eat 2 kg of apples and drink activated charcoal). On the second day, the body requires recovery (eat cottage cheese and kefir).

Diet "Ladder" will help you quickly lose weight

The third day of the meal should consist of foods rich in healthy sugars. The fourth day is protein (eat lean poultry meat in boiled form). The fifth day is fiber in the diet (muesli, oatmeal, fruits are suitable).

For 5 days, a loss of 7 kg is possible. The diet can be carried out every 2 weeks, the main thing is that there are no problems with the gastrointestinal tract.

How to become a better girl in 30 days - psychological training

You can become better in a month with the help of psychological training. Each girl chooses a program for herself that will help develop her hidden qualities.

Self-confidence is another component of a successful life!

By choosing the right program for yourself, in 30 days you can completely change yourself, and most importantly, change everything around you. Raise your self-esteem, become more successful.

Girls after training programs become better, and most importantly, the question of how - by itself disappears. Any issues are resolved with ease, there are no fears and fears, which means the end of depression and stress.

At home, you can conduct independent training. To do this, you need to write on a piece of paper all the good things done, achievements, awards, joyful memories.

You need to read this list daily, and soon it will turn into a life guide. The more positive deeds and accomplishments come to mind, the longer the list will turn out, which means that daily readings of 5 minutes a day will give positive results.

It is required not to forget to praise yourself - this is a reward and raising self-esteem. Praise can be practiced in front of a mirror.

Do not forget to smile at yourself every day - then things will be most successful.

Creating a new image to become even better

Any girl has her own image, which is more acceptable and convenient for her, but in order to change for the better, she will have to completely change. This means that the path to success lies through dramatic changes.

You can start changing your image with a hairstyle: long straight hair - curl, and curls - straighten, make a fashionable haircut or coloring. This season, ombre and balayazh are at the peak of fashion.

Change and habitual makeup, having tried to make it fashionable: painted eyelashes, eyes lined with eyeliner, foundation, neat and expressive eyebrows, gloss or lipstick.

If you have vision problems, then your usual glasses should be replaced with contact lenses.. If contact lenses were used, then stylish glasses or colored lenses will help to change the image.

Changing the image applies to changing the wardrobe. Business women who are accustomed to formal suits can dilute their look with lighter and more playful accessories, for example, use a bright color of a headscarf in combination with a dark suit. For lovers of free sports style, you can buy several feminine dresses and high heeled shoes.

Stylish accessories accentuate the whole look.: bags, belts, jewelry, and most importantly shoes. All things must complement each other.

Changing the image is not only about creating a new image, you need to change your habits, remove unnecessary gestures, change loud laughter to a smile. Knowing your complexes and shortcomings, they need to be corrected.

To make a girl better, she should have its own unique image. You should not shackle yourself, just as you are shy about new acquaintances (in 30 days, you can make at least 10 friends). It is necessary to make new friends all the time, but at the same time not forget about the existing ones. The circle of communication should be diverse.

Sociability plays an important role. In the company you need to be cheerful, joyful, then the success of leadership is guaranteed, in any company there is a place for such a positive person.

Sociability is the key to success in life. Don't have 100 rubles, but have 100 friends!
Important to remember! Having fallen in love with yourself with all your might, others will not remain indifferent. No wonder there is a proverb: love yourself the way you want others to love you.

Wanting to become better is a painstaking daily, every minute work. You will have to work on your views, taste, image, feelings, fears, perfection and external data.

If you do not deviate from the rules, then the achievement of the goal will be very close, and all unpleasant memories and fears will remain in the old life.

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Many mistakenly blame others for their own failures. Women believe that husbands and children are to blame for their failed careers, as a result of which ladies have become housewives. Men blame their parents for not forcing them to get higher education. These are just examples of when a person is not able to take responsibility for his own life. And in vain, in all cases it is necessary to rely only on one's own strength, not relying on outside help.

Step #1. Watch your diet and habits

No wonder the Chinese proverb says, "You are what you eat." Follow it, watch your own diet, eat only healthy foods, give up unhealthy snacks and fast food. There is no need to change your daily diet tremendously, it is enough to replace carbonated drinks with green tea, and packaged juices with fresh juices. It will not be superfluous to refuse white sugar, coffee, alcohol and sweets. Smokers should permanently get rid of addiction. This one step can change your life 180 degrees.

Step #2. Get rich spiritually

Read useful literature, watch documentaries and attend seminars. From books, choose the psychology of personal growth and communication, fiction, natural science and business, history, sociology. Get in the habit of reading one book a week.

If you do not have enough time or you work a lot on a PC (eyes get tired), download audiobooks from the Internet. Listen to them on your way to work, during household chores, while shopping. If you count, about 50 books are published a year, believe me, this will significantly change your life. You will become knowledgeable in many areas of life, you will be able to keep up the conversation in any situation, and you will begin to attract “useful” acquaintances to you.

Step #3. Develop financially

Do you consider yourself self-sufficient? Great, but it's not the limit. Do you really think that the famous millionaires stopped there? No, they continued to work, earning a name for themselves, so that later the name would work for them. Take an example from such people.

Wake up in the morning with the thought that today you will succeed yourself yesterday, achieve more. Do you drive a good car? Well, there are better cars out there. Have you saved up for your own apartment? Save up for the next one. Ask for a promotion at work, if they refuse, go to work in another company. Don't stand still.

People who do not have an apartment or a car, especially should not stop. List in order of priority what you need to achieve this year. Set a goal and move towards it. Hang the list on the refrigerator, if you want to eat - read it, again decided to have a bite - read it again. If you think that you earn little, devote every day to finding additional income.

Step number 4. Get rid of unnecessary things

Open the closet and try on every item in it. Throw away or give away anything that doesn't fit perfectly. No need to store junk, learn to get rid of it. Disassemble the pantry, balcony or other place with unnecessary junk.

Put the shelves in order, remove the old figurines that are there “for furniture”. Leave only what you really like. Believe me, you will experience an inexplicable boost of energy after taking the last package to the garbage container. Update your wardrobe regularly: buy a new thing, throw out the old one.

Step number 5. Find yourself

The unknown is exhausting and exhausting. A person who does not know what he wants from life is doomed to failure. Do you wake up every morning and go to work you hate? Do you work 6 days a week? Change the situation. Look for a better paying job. Perhaps you have a passion for building or repairing cars, or maybe you are an avid fan of information technology. Look for your place.

Many people spend their whole lives in despair, wanting to start enjoying what they do. It is rightly said, "The best job is a highly paid hobby." Strive to wake up in the morning with a smile and look forward to a productive day. Try yourself in different areas, you do not realize the potential until you know what suits you.

Step number 6. Improve yourself

Have you ever wanted to learn a foreign language? It's time to act. Study the language schools of the city, attend an introductory lesson. In addition to the fact that knowledge of the language allows you to freely travel around the world, this skill increases the salary by 45%. It is only important to find an employer who needs a qualified employee.

For example, compare the number of Internet users who speak Russian and English. The first is about 50 million, the second is over a billion. Now knowledge of English is not only a whim or a sign of the intelligentsia, its study becomes necessary for general development and communication.

Step number 7. go in for sports

It is no secret that sport significantly raises the fighting spirit. Men should sign up for a boxing, karate or kickboxing section, it will not be superfluous to visit the gym. Set a goal to pump up your back or press in six months, make a bet with your friends. If you don't do it, you'll be an empty talker.

For girls, there is a wider range of destinations. Learn everything about Pilates, callanectics, stretching, half-dance, yoga. Choose the option you like and sign up for a trial lesson. Fans of intense training should pay attention to water aerobics, step and gymnastics. Sport not only tones the body, it allows you to feel confident. No need to be shy of strangers or be afraid of failure, you will succeed.

Step number 8. Look after your appearance

Untidy clothes in spools or frayed jeans say a lot about a person. Don't put people off by your looks. Girls need to regularly visit the master of manicure and pedicure, as well as tint the roots and cut the ends. Get your hair done, get nice clothes. Watch your figure, go on a diet if necessary. Instead of wearing tracksuits and sneakers, wear high heels and dresses/skirts. As for men, shave regularly, walk only in clean and ironed clothes. Watch your body, don't grow a belly.

Step number 9. Plan your weekend

No need to lie on the couch all your free time. Go barbecue with friends or take a walk along the river, visit an art exhibition or a museum. In winter, go skiing, ice skating, master the technique of snowboarding. In the summer, rent a bike or skateboard, roller skates will do. Go to the cinema, visit your relatives, sit in a cafe with friends.

Strive to do something new every weekend, explore the world around you. Share new impressions, take pictures. The more you learn, the more interesting life becomes. After a certain period of time, you will no longer be able to sit still, and this is fraught with changes for the better.

Stop playing computer games completely. They take a lot of time, but do not carry any semantic load. Replace virtual communication with real ones, give up being constantly on social networks. In these ways you are wasting your life. Imagine how many useful and interesting things you can do with hours spent on the Internet.

Step number 10. Learn to say "No!"

Do not let others manipulate you, do not follow the lead of friends and relatives. Do you feel like your friends are taking advantage of you? Point out their mistakes, don't be afraid to be direct. Speak clearly and delicately, do not raise your voice. There is no need to feel guilty when you refuse someone. You are a person with your own principles and beliefs. Let others understand. Become independent of the opinions of others. Don't give a damn about anyone who says you can't do it. Surround yourself only with bright, kind and successful people.

Only you can change your life. Clean up your diet, give up bad habits. Enjoy the weekend, learn something new every week. Read books, develop in terms of material wealth, look for yourself. Throw away unnecessary things in the trash, surround yourself only with successful people.