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There, by the way, the ex-spouses met - the singer was born and raised in Uzbekistan... In the summer of this year, Sogdiana finally convinced her ex-husband to sign a settlement agreement. They agreed that the boy’s permanent place of residence would be with his father, in Tashkent. And regarding the child’s upbringing, the parents decided that they would do it together, in turns: for some time he would live with his father, for some time with his mother. “Thank God, now we are both ready to do anything for the good of our son. Previously, Ram, apparently, was afraid: since he forcibly took the child from me, then I, too, would try to act in a similar way.

But over time, I became convinced that I was not my son’s enemy, and in no case did I want to create a stressful situation for him or expose him to new experiences. Fortunately, time smooths things out. Our grievances, misunderstandings - everything has passed, everything has been forgotten. And now we have come to the same conclusion that Arjun is my child, and we will communicate with him as much as we want. Most importantly, Ram realized that our son really needs his own mother, no one can replace her,” says the singer.

After the necessary papers were signed, Sogdiana began to think about how best to meet with Arjun, so as not to traumatize his psyche too much. Since she was told that the boy (he will soon be three years old) is very impressionable and vulnerable by nature, the singer decided that their meeting should take place at his home, on his territory, in an environment familiar to the child.

Sogdiana could not suddenly leave Moscow for Tashkent - her youngest son from her second marriage, Mikail, is still very small, she feeds him breast milk. And then my husband Bashir (they got married a year ago) said: “Go calmly, don’t worry. And we will wait for your return. Just don’t worry too much so that Arjun doesn’t feel your inner jitters.” “Of course, I tried very hard to cope with my anxiety, but I couldn’t do anything. While I was flying on the plane to Tashkent, everyone imagined our meeting, and I couldn’t believe that very soon I would see my son. I was shaking from the inside, I was tense, compressed like a spring. I was terribly afraid that Arjunya wouldn’t recognize me, would be scared, would cry, and wouldn’t come to me.

I thought how I could survive this, what would happen to my heart, which was already fluttering wildly in my chest... When the nanny opened the door for me, and Arjun stood next to her on the threshold, I could not utter a word. She just looked at him without stopping. And the nanny asked: “Oh, Arjun, who came to you?” “Mom,” he answered calmly. And I was relieved a little...

I didn’t immediately attack my son with kisses, I was afraid to scare him. I was waiting for him to get used to me a little and come up on his own. He took me to his room, began to sort out the gifts that I had brought him, and showed me his toys. He walked nearby and looked carefully. And when I asked him to take me for a ride in his big car, he said: “No, I won’t take me for a ride.” Trying to start a conversation, I said: “Oh, what a pity. Mom will be upset and cry.” And then Arjunya suddenly made frightened eyes, ran up to me, hugged me, and began to feel sorry for me - apparently so that I wouldn’t be upset.

Singer Sogdiana is one of the brightest graduates of the popular musical television project “Star Factory”. A native of Uzbekistan skillfully dances and performs compositions in oriental style. Few people know that the singer’s real name is Oksana Nechitailo. The artist managed to be married twice and give birth to two sons. At one time, the press was stirred up by the story of the secret abduction of one of her boys - the first husband then took the child to India.

Where is Sogdiana's son from his first marriage now? Who forced the artist to change her faith? Did she manage to improve relationships with her ex-husbands? And does the singer want to get married again? The singer answered these and other questions to the host of the “Oh Mommy” program, Angelica Raj.

Sogdiana, I know that you are from Tashkent, and many people think that you are Uzbek by nationality. Your fans are starting heated discussions on the Internet about your origin. Let's satisfy the public's curiosity, so who are you really?

I have never hidden this. Indeed, I was born in Uzbekistan, in the city of Tashkent. My parents are Ukrainians. My grandfather was a military man, a colonel in the Soviet Army. And for his great merits, he was given the opportunity to purchase an apartment in any city of the Soviet Union. My grandmother asked it to be Tashkent: it’s warm, delicious...

But at the same time you perform music in an oriental style. Your stage image is that of an oriental beauty. Why did you rely on the East in your work?

Since childhood, I have absorbed this musical culture and this mentality. So I know how to do it.

Sogdiana, your personal life is simply an action-packed drama worthy of film adaptation. You said that you perceived your divorces as a huge tragedy. Why is this so?

Then yes. But now I take it as a lesson. Well, why should I continue to grieve and shed tears now? Of course, I didn't want this to happen. My mom and dad lived together for 45 years, and there were no other options for me.

Your first husband is Indian, your second is Ingush. This is the East and the Caucasus. And you call the reason for your divorces the pathological jealousy of your husbands. But you cannot help but know that the East and the Caucasus have their own idea of ​​family values. Why couldn't you fit into their framework?

I always wanted to be married. And yet there are always two people to blame. That's all I can say.

The press calls your first husband an Indian millionaire, your second - a Dagestan oligarch. Where did your paths cross?

I met the father of my first child when I performed at his birthday party. He saw me on stage. Then it was very difficult for me to hide from him. He overtook me everywhere, acted assertively, and didn’t even ask me. That's what he decided and that's it.

And with the second one - Bashir - there was a whole detective story. He helped me a lot during the divorce process. That's how it all started.

- Was he as persistent as his first husband? It turns out that you are chosen, and not you choose?

Yes, I probably agree here.

- I know that when your first husband secretly took away your son, you did not see each other for several years. Is your son Arjun with you now?

Now it’s like this: when dad comes, he’s with dad. When dad leaves, he is with us. Now he doesn’t even remember the time when he lived separately, and I really don’t want to remind him of this. Of course, it was very difficult, there were very long negotiations.

- What persuaded his father to allow you to meet his son and communicate with him?

I think that first of all, the child himself. Because when the emotions subsided, the baby came to the fore, who, of course, needed a mother, and not a nanny. For him, dad is an unconditional authority, but he soon realized that the child was missing something. No matter how many different toys he has, everything he wants, his mother is his mother. Now we are communicating with his father. For me, a bad peace is better than a good war. The fact that I even told this story about the kidnapping was a step of desperation, I thought that I would somehow protect myself with this. But in the end, no, she didn’t protect her, and even made her angry.

Your first husband Ram is a Buddhist, your second husband Bashir is a Muslim, and you are Orthodox. Have there been times when your husbands persuaded you to accept their faith?

Yes it was, but it is very important for me to be accepted for who I am. Part of my life is creativity. How I dress or how I address God are personal issues, and the person next to me needs to initially accept them.

I have an international family. I grew up in Uzbekistan, and I myself am Ukrainian. And in general, I don’t divide people by nationality and faith. Yes, there are different faiths, but it’s all about the same thing, albeit in different languages. We talk to our sons before going to bed, and the youngest, Mikail, says: “I’ll say a prayer now.” And reads a Muslim prayer. I say: “Well done, son!” And the second one - Arjun - lies and does not know what to do. I say: “And you pray, as dad teaches you.” And he read his very beautiful prayer. And I read mine, the Orthodox one. And I say: “You see, we are a family, we are one whole, you just expressed your gratitude to God in your own way, and you said the same thing in another language. But the meaning is the same.”

- The eldest son is a Buddhist, the youngest is a Muslim, doesn’t this create difficulties in communication?

No, there are absolutely no difficulties. The only thing our dads asked me was that the children should not eat beef, since Hindus do not eat it, and pork, since Muslims do not eat it. That's why we eat turkey, rabbit, chicken, and fish.

- Do you admit that you will marry again a person of a different faith and different views?

Another faith - yes, it doesn’t matter. But other views are unlikely. I have absolutely normal values. I just want a family, and I have it. I have wonderful children and a mother. I work and go home. There is no such thing that I dance somewhere until the morning, forgetting about home or my responsibilities. I just want my loved ones to understand my work. Some people work from 9:00 to 18:00, while others have a different schedule. It is necessary that close people treat this with understanding. If I stand on stage and people look at me, this does not mean that I am an approachable person.

- Work was probably the main reason for your divorces? Jealousy for work, for the stage, for fans...

Someday I'll tell you about it. Why don’t I say something?.. A lot happens in any family life, and it’s better not to tell anyone about it at all. I am so grateful to my husbands that my children are with me now. Yes, there were difficulties, but I am glad that now we are friends with my ex-husbands. We agree on everything normally and see each other. These are the people I can always count on. It is important.

- Do you want to get married again?

In general, yes! The main thing is that this time everything works out.

You can find out amazing stories from the lives of stars every Saturday at 9:00 on the MIR TV channel on the air of the program “Oh, Mommies!”

“I don’t consider myself a nun”

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The singer SOGDIANA was born in the East, but she is Slavic by blood. Fragile on the outside, she is incredibly strong on the inside. She cannot imagine life without the stage, but she can leave it for the sake of her children. Leaving her career for a while, the singer disappeared from view. Now Sogdiana has returned and is storming the musical Olympus again.

N I can't help but ask you about something unusual andbeautiful name - Sogdiana. Is this a stage name?

My real name is Oksana. I like it, but it is for family and close people. I couldn’t imagine myself on stage with him, so I started looking for a stage name. However, everything that came to mind or anyone suggested was funny and absurd. Once I was preparing for a competition in Italy, where I was traveling as a singer from Uzbekistan. I collected documents and filled out various forms. And one person who helped me with this said: “Take yourself the pseudonym Sogdiana. Sounds so good! I liked it too: straight to the point! Moreover, Sogdiana is a historical region located on the territory of modern Uzbekistan and Tajikistan. That is, this name indicated where I was from. This is how my image of an oriental girl, a singer, developed. But my parents are not Uzbeks. During Soviet times, they came to Tashkent to work.

If you are in character now, I will call you Sogdiana. You have already conquered Moscow once - when you got to the Star Factory. Was it more difficult then or now when you return to the stage after a break?

Then, in 2006, Russian show business was absolutely incomprehensible to me, I didn’t understand it at all. Although by that time I was a fairly successful singer in Uzbekistan, I already had experience of participating and winning various competitions in many countries. Many singers from Tashkent went to the New Wave competition, and I really wanted to go there too. I was in Moscow twice to audition, but I was terribly worried and did not pass the selection. Although I already had a song “Heart Magnet”, which later became a hit. I really believed in this song, I knew, I felt that it would play an important role in my life. But when I got ready to go to the “Star Factory”, I didn’t even think that I would be able to go there - it seemed to me that this was from the realm of fantasy. However, I am a desperate person, I borrowed money and went to the casting. It was morally difficult to see huge queues of people wanting to get into the project. All day long, some kind of roulades sounded everywhere. You come and they sing there, they sing here, in whole groups, individually. This singing makes you terribly tired. But we still need to get together and perform ourselves. And you know, it came as a complete surprise to me that I completed all the rounds. Then, I remember, my adrenaline was going through the roof! Besides, at that moment I had no plans to move. But that's how it happened. After “Factory” I already recorded songs and stayed in Moscow. All was good. But I had to take a break. It’s easier to come back now because the audience already knows me. We shot a video for the new song “Lightning” - this is a very touching composition with Arabic instruments. And I’m also recording songs for my new album, which I hope will be released soon.

I remember the whole public was alarmed when you said that your ex-husband Ram took and took away his little son Arjun.

It was a very painful period. Then emotions overwhelmed both me and my ex-husband. As a result, I didn’t see my eldest son for two and a half years. Then, when the grievances between Ram and I passed, we stopped quarreling and decided that we needed to improve our relationship for the sake of our child. We talked a lot about how to live so that the boy could feel good. This is how life turned out that we got divorced and nothing can be returned back, but why should a child suffer?! And then, when we agreed on everything, I went to see my son in Tashkent, where he lived with his dad. I felt that my baby needed me. I was going to stay there for a month, but it so happened that I lived in Tashkent for two and a half years. During this time I left my job. I don't regret it in any way. You see, these are incomparable things - career and children. Arjun was four years old at the time. Naturally, he needed his mother. I wanted to give him that maternal warmth and care that he lacked when he was without me.

And now Arjun lives with you?

The son lives with his father in Tashkent. He goes to school there. But he often comes to Moscow. I was here just recently. Yes, and I go there with my youngest son. Now Ram and I have no enmity and we can see Arjun whenever we want. I left Tashkent when Arjun started going to school. At first, I took him to classes, picked him up in the evening after school from different sections - there was not much time for communication. The child was busy. And that’s when I realized that I could return to the stage again.

What actually started the rift with your first husband?

We are very different people. No, he's not a bad person. But he is not creative at all. He doesn't like music or painting. He can say “Yes, it’s beautiful,” but for him art can never become the meaning of life. And he didn't want me to perform.

But after this painful divorce, another man appeared in your life and you became a mother for the second time.

My second husband, Bashir, is a wonderful person who was very supportive of me during that difficult period. But in 2011 we separated, divorced in a civilized manner. Mick's son lives with me.

What happened this time?

I am such a person: I cannot live when there are some restrictions and prohibitions. And my second husband was very jealous of me - he was afraid of losing me. He assigned two guards to me. It's very hard. It seems, what's wrong with that? Just think, two guards. But it really bothered me, I didn’t like being watched. At some point, I realized that it was easier for me not to go anywhere, I stopped meeting with friends. I remember reading a lot of different horoscopes as a child. My zodiac sign is Aquarius, so they wrote everywhere that Aquarians value their freedom very much. Then I did not understand the meaning of these words. I thought: “What does it mean to feel not free?” And when I found myself under the protection of two bodyguards, I fully felt how much freedom I lacked. I'm not talking about the fact that I should be single or flirt left and right. No! I need such freedom that I can easily move around the city - for example, sit and talk with you and without anyone watching me.

The main thing is that now you have managed to improve your relationships with your ex-husbands.

I am grateful to both of them for being and still being in my life. It doesn't matter that we're not together now. It’s even good, because we are great friends at a distance. For some reason, when a man lives with me, he inevitably begins to isolate me from everyone, I become only his property. And at the same time it’s hard for me to breathe. To be honest, I’m not very pleased that I already have two marriages behind me. Because before my eyes I had another example - my parents. They met each other at the age of 20 and still live together to this day: 45 years of marriage. And I was very worried at first, I was ashamed, embarrassed, and worried about the question: “What will people say?” Then I realized that I was eating myself with these thoughts. If it happened this way, then it had to be so. This is my life. And I just accepted her for who she is. And I began to feel happy. I have wonderful children, a wonderful job.

What do you think an ideal man should be like?

After two marriages, I realized that I don’t need my man to help me with anything. I mean work. Usually this kind of unprofessional help only gets in the way. I can handle it myself, even if not right away, even if it won’t be easy. But it’s okay, but I will work, I will feel free, no one will infringe on me either in my interests or in my creativity. And I also realized that you cannot change an adult. Therefore, if you accept him this way, it means you are making this choice, and that’s all. Then all that remains is to endure, but it is impossible to do this for a long time. I believe that I will meet my man, I don’t consider myself a nun, I’m only 30 years old. But I need a man with whom I will be comfortable.

Sogdiana, how do your main men, your sons, react to the fact that their mother is a singer?

They like it when I sing. Sometimes they watch some programs and say: “Why aren’t you there? Why don’t you perform?” I'm pleased that they want to see me on stage. The eldest, Arjun, is so serious at seven years old. He said he would be a doctor. And the youngest, Mika, he is five, behaves like a young star. ( Laughs.) I directly remember myself as a child, when I dreamed of a stage, of spectators. We recently went to the equestrian center, and there are many, many interesting things there, including an open stage in the shape of a semicircle. And he climbed onto it and began to dance to the music. We were with relatives who began to applaud him, and he bowed like an artist.

And you behaved this way as a child, right?

I had a big dream - to become a ballerina. Tall height got in the way. Mom said: “Your partner won’t lift you up.” But I was drawn to the stage. I sang and danced a lot. From the age of seven she performed at home concerts. Then I went to a music school in Tashkent, where there was a very strict selection process. I was accepted, and I took piano classes. I started going to competitions, but I always had some kind of internal uncertainty about whether I was doing what I was doing. And having moved to a new music school, where there was pop art, I began to sing with pleasure. By the 11th grade, when the time came to choose where to enroll, there were no questions: of course, to the conservatory. However, I was thinking: vocals or piano. I remember that my piano teacher was very jealous of my singing because she wanted me to become a pianist. And my mother was shocked when I said that I decided to study vocals. She probably didn't think it was that serious. But I made my choice. And I will always give my children the opportunity to decide for themselves and do as they see fit.

So you are a very loyal mother?

I think I'm not strict. Although anything can happen. You can’t follow children’s lead when they are capricious. I try to be fair. I am affectionate, gentle, kind. I love my children. Now I’m thinking: everything that I had to go through - and it was not an easy path - I’m ready to repeat, knowing that I will have such wonderful children.