Many of us face such a problem in everyday communication - how exactly should we address another person? Moreover, starting from the late 90s, simplified address only by name (without patronymic) is increasingly used. How should we approach this? When I was at school (now I’m 30 years old), it was drummed into our heads that we should address elders by their first and patronymic names and “you,” and they, since they are “seniors” in relation to us, have every right not to just address us simply by name and “you”, but also using diminutive forms (for example, not Vladimir, but Vova). This was supposed to emphasize the difference in the age hierarchy, well known from Soviet, and even from pre-revolutionary times. It doesn’t matter who you are and what you have achieved in life, whether you have intelligence or some positive qualities, the main thing is that you need to “listen” and “respect” your elders.

The latter provision also implied that, in principle, it is not at all necessary to respect any person and his personal dignity, but only on the condition that this person is significantly older than you or has a certain profession/occupies a certain position. In our country, bosses, officials, deputies, and more recently also priests (the same officials, only church ones) have always enjoyed special respect - they are even called “fathers” and “priests,” although Christ, as is known, spoke quite well on this matter definitely: “And you do not call yourself teachers, for you have one Teacher - Christ, yet you are brothers; and do not call anyone on earth your father, for you have one Father, who is in heaven; and do not be called mentors, for one Christ is your Teacher" (Matthew 23:8-10).

But if we ignore this husk and try to solve the problem in, so to speak, ideal conditions, then what should be an adequate approach to other people? I won’t undertake to answer for everyone, but for myself I chose the following strategy, consisting of 7 simple rules.
1. Initially, I address everyone as “you”, except for very young children (under 12 years old).
2. If they address me on “you,” then I also switch to “you,” but if this person does not arouse my sympathy, then I try to minimize contact with him.
3. I also address everyone who addresses me simply by name simply by name (without patronymic), no matter how old he is or what his position is (I make an exception only for a few people who are attractive to me and who It's been too many years now for them to get out of the habit of certain stereotypes.
4. I also address everyone who addresses me by their first name and patronymic (if I know it).
5. I use first and patronymic addresses only in business correspondence and in public space under certain conditions, but in everyday communication I prefer to be addressed by name, but with “you”.
6. I allow diminutive forms of names only when communicating with close people and friends.
7. I have long noticed that any familiarity quickly turns into rudeness and unacceptable violation of personal boundaries, so I still prefer to keep communication on “you” until I get to know the person better and get closer to him.

Subject: “They call you by name, they call you by patronymic”02.03.11

Target: Familiarize the children with the origin of names and their meaning.

Tasks:

1) Introduce students to the meaning of first and middle names in a person’s life.

2) Develop students' horizons.

3) Cultivate a respectful attitude towards classmates.

Lesson plan:

1. Org. Moment.

2. Communicate the topic and purpose.

3.Conversation and

4. Summing up.

Progress of the lesson

Org. Moment.

Hello guys! Sit down.

Communicate the topic and purpose.

Our class hour is called “Called by name, called by patronymic”

Conversation.

Every year we celebrate birthdays! When we are born, our parents give us names. Sometimes, when they give names, they don’t even know their meaning. A person's name carries a lot of information.

A name is destiny, character, a helper for good words, and a heavenly protector. Your name is the name of your guardian angel. (The guys list their names in a chain and what they mean.) In ancient times, the name given at birth was kept secret or given double names, one of which was known only to close people, because the name carries fate. When giving a name, parents counted on the patronage and protection of God. In our class, all the children have very beautiful names, surnames and patronymics.

The meaning of the name Alina

From the Old German "noble".

Alina- a girl who was sickly in childhood, very irritable, stubborn and impudent, not tolerating any comments. She is often raised in a single-parent family, by one mother, but she inherited her character from her father, and even looks like him. She has a good memory, she quickly grasps what she hears, and Alina studies well at school. She loves to draw and read historical novels. Alina is proud, strives to command everyone, has conflicts and manages to ruin her relationships with almost all the teachers at school, and she constantly quarrels with her mother over trifles. Prefers to be friends with boys. With age, the character of these girls softens somewhat and becomes calmer. Although many traits: stubbornness, intolerance, the ability to move from one extreme to another - remain. Those around her sometimes find her cunning. They are good housewives, very hospitable, but they cannot get along with their mother-in-law. The character of these women is such that it is better for them to live apart not only from their mother-in-law, but also from their parents. Alina knows how to present herself and always tries to look attractive. She is a fashionista with good taste. He manages to make an original toilet out of nothing and does not forget to make others pay attention to him. She generally loves to brag.

The meaning of the name Alena

Alina- capable people. They work in different fields, among them are engineers and artists, doctors and salesmen, journalists and architects, musicians and teachers, although the latter profession, given the uncontrolled nature of such women, is contraindicated for them.

Name Alena - Slavic origin. This was the name of the ancient tribes that lived in the European part of Russia - Alyons.

Alyons were very warlike, their symbol was the sword and fire. And the word Alena means scarlet, fiery. The name of the heroine of Russian fairy tales, Alyonushka, is precisely of Slavic roots, of ancient origin.

The name Alena means torch in Greek.

From Hebrew Alena (Alona) is translated as oak.

In fact, the name Alena has nothing to do with Elena, it is not even a Greek name, but an ancient Russian, pagan one. That was the name of the goddess of the morning dawn - Alena. Means scarlet, beautiful. Little Alena loves fairy tales. He keeps himself a little withdrawn, keeps himself apart among children, lives in his own inner world. But in a well-known team, they are open, cheerful and cheerful. She is gullible, but when faced with deception, especially one based on the use of her gullibility, she will certainly try to punish the person who deceived her, showing extraordinary ingenuity. Alena is kind, but her kindness in childhood is rarely active. So, she can bring a dirty street kitten into the house, give it milk to drink, cry over its bitter fate, but will not show firmness when the parents turn the “new resident” out onto the street at night that same evening. He is interested in a little bit of everything. And she tries to knit, and sew, and embroider - she is attracted to everything beautiful. Lessons are taught from time to time. She does well at school, even excellently in some subjects, thanks mainly to her good memory and the teacher she likes. Alena often looks like her father. In any case, she inherits his character exactly. Alena is emotional and categorical. Emotions generally play a big role in Alena’s life.

The meaning of the name Artyom

In childhood, people often suffer from respiratory diseases. They are calm and never impose their opinions on others. There are usually no problems at school. They read a lot, are always objective in assessing situations, always tell the truth, and sometimes they get it for it. Look like mother. Friendly and sociable. In adulthood, they are flexible and purposeful. Not careerists. They achieve everything through their own work, are very loyal, and know how to keep secrets. Those born in winter have a very contradictory character. These are people of various professions: jewelers, doctors, electricians, artists, journalists, architects, teachers, watchmakers. Once married, they become good husbands and love animals. Hardworking. They have a passion for traveling, drive cars well, and repair them themselves. There are no leaders in the family. They love to receive guests and cook for them. Autumn ones are stubborn and persistent, but not conflicting. They are talented, with a rich imagination, but, unfortunately, for many, their talent remains undiscovered. They love adventure literature. They go in for sports, but do not reach great heights. Their weakness is talking on the phone. Summers are very kind and trusting, mothers are always worried about them, since they often find themselves helpless in life. They travel willingly and just as willingly go on business trips, and quickly find friends.

The meaning of the name Marina

From the Latin "sea".

As a rule, Marina has a high opinion of herself. And the beautiful Marina often even overestimates herself. She knows how to subordinate emotions to reason, so that everything that concerns her personal fate, she does thoughtfully and prudently. Sensuality awakens in her very early. At school, passions are always in full swing around Marina, notes are passed around, quarrels break out between the boys, and there are always those who want to carry her briefcase. It's amazing that this happens regardless of whether she is beautiful or ugly. Marina is smart, brave, relaxed, with a highly developed sense of self-esteem; faced with the betrayal of a loved one, she will not come to terms with it, even if a divorce threatens to ruin her entire life. With such a complex combination of pride and prudence, Marina is still not stingy.

Marina will be happy with a calm person, with an easy-going character, who can provide her with the necessary standard of living. At the same time, the husband must constantly admire Marina; she will not tolerate inattention to herself. Due to her high self-esteem, Marina has a difficult relationship with her mother-in-law. In the kitchen, Marina works wonders, striving at all costs to amaze guests with her culinary skills. In caring for children, she is quite impulsive: she either rushes to fill obvious gaps in their upbringing, or leaves the children to their own devices for a long time. Capable of causing a scene of jealousy in the presence of strangers. Marina's first marriages are difficult. People often choose the professions of nurses, doctors, telephone operators, engineers, hairdressers, and actresses.

The meaning of the name Nikita

From the Greek winner.

These are men who know their worth. They are selfish and purposeful, they choose a goal for themselves and follow a direct path to it. They do not like to be commanded, they are persistent, stubborn and at the same time sensitive and vulnerable. Outwardly they look like their mother, but their character is that of their father. Their family life is difficult, but, loving their children, they prefer not to get a divorce. Very devoted sons. These men have talent from God. They are leaders, however, this does not apply to family life. They have few friends, Nikita lacks diplomacy, does not want to adapt to anyone and does not tolerate anyone's superiority. Those born in winter are difficult to communicate with and are big debaters. They are hardworking and think through their plans down to the smallest detail. They do not tolerate long conversations on the phone.

The meaning of the name Dmitry

From the Greek "pertaining to Demeter."

Outwardly he resembles his mother. Frequent respiratory diseases, sore throat, flu, bronchitis make Dima a sick child. In childhood, instability of the nervous system, capriciousness, and increased demands on others are noticeable. With age, Dima's health improves, and his capriciousness degenerates into stubbornness. Very strong-willed, can explode, difficult to communicate with. Smart, persistent, inventive, not afraid of work. Colleagues appreciate his sociability and ability to easily cope with failures. As a result, Dmitry is promoted, especially successful in those professions where it is necessary to communicate with people. They love coziness, comfort, beautiful women and various pleasures. It is difficult for them to limit themselves in anything. To create the necessary level of living comfort for Dmitry, his wife will have to rack her brains a lot. Many people associate the word “Impostor” with this name. Dmitry is brave, charming and cruel. Rushing into battle, he rarely thinks about the consequences, for which he is often punished. Amorous. The new feeling captures them so strongly and completely that without much remorse they change their sympathies. Despite their frequent remarriages, they retain a touching affection for children from previous marriages and continue to care for them throughout their lives. The wife will have to put up with her husband's grumpiness. The Dmitrievs' mother enjoys great authority. Moderately jealous. They are not averse to drinking, but are not addicted to alcoholic beverages. A romantic attitude towards a woman lasts until old age.

Meaning of the name Christina

The name Christina is of Greek origin. From the expression “dedicated to Christ”

Kristya is very similar in appearance to her father, but her character is maternal: just like her mother, she is active, quick-witted, sometimes unpredictable, and has an excellent memory. This is a cheerful girl who doesn’t do anything hastily and doesn’t panic. She stands firmly on the ground and does not waste time building castles in the air. She gives the impression of being shy, even timid. In fact, Christina is simply observant, listens and remembers everything. She is not too excitable, she needs time to make a decision. In society, these are liberated women who quickly make friends with strangers, but prefer a few selected friends. They quickly fall in love and just as quickly become disappointed. Such girls feel a constant need for tenderness and love with corresponding external manifestations. It is difficult to penetrate into their inner world, but it is not always possible to understand what they are thinking about. However, behind Christine's external impenetrability, a stormy temperament is often hidden.

The meaning of the name Vadim

From Old Russian “to accuse, to slander”

Usually Vadim is a healthy, sociable, cheerful child. He, like a lamb, will jump around the room or run skipping along the alley of the park, scaring with his screams grandmothers sitting on benches or random passers-by. But this is not from disobedience. Vadim reacts very sensitively to his mother’s comments, tenderly loves her and his father, his sisters and brothers, if he has them. But he has so much unspent energy! Therefore, in childhood, it is necessary to ensure that the boy does not ride his bicycle onto the roadway or fall from a tree or balcony. He studies well, but teachers complain about his restlessness. Vadimov makes good leaders. They feel people well, are caring, and remember their promises. Extraordinarily hardworking and purposeful. Having taken on something, they will not stop until they achieve their goal. They are not without prudence and some cunning; they carefully think through their actions and statements. They have good “punching” abilities; getting something rare and in short supply is a pleasure for them; they see it as a certain game, a sporting interest. Those born in winter find it difficult to communicate; for a long time they cannot decide on a profession, wife, or friends. Those born in summer are softer, lazier.

The meaning of the name Ksenia

From Greek "hospitality", "foreign"

Ksyusha is growing up as a sweet, calm and obedient child. She studies well at school, is not lazy, is neat and efficient. It’s just that she’s too sensitive and touchy. If Ksyusha gets pouty, then she will never be the first to make peace. She often changes her girlfriends, and in the end she chooses the one who will not contradict her in anything. Sensitivity and receptivity are also characteristic of adult Ksenia. She definitely lacks poise and stability. This woman’s family life is therefore never strewn with roses. The first marriage often ends in nothing; Ksenia marries again many years later. Ksenia is more interested in the humanities than in technology, she has a great talent for languages, but most of all nature has endowed her with musical talent, and if she seriously begins to study music, she achieves great professional success in this area. Ksenia reacts vividly to injustice, but will only fight for her own rights, although in words she may sympathize with others. In general, she is more interested in her inner world than in her work. The best thing for her is to improve her home. She is an excellent and, most importantly, very thrifty housewife. Girls born in autumn often succeed in science, but they are characterized by the same excessive impressionability and the slightest failure leads her to complete despair.

Meaning of the name Egor

From Greek - farmer.

Little Egorka has an analytical mind. If a neighbor’s dog brings three puppies, then there is no way to explain to him why last time there were only two of them! In addition, Yegor is very stubborn and distrustful. A person who deceives him at least once risks losing the boy’s favor forever. He studies well, is diligent and hardworking. If you come across a “bad” teacher, it is better to immediately transfer him to another school: he will no longer study here. He has good business qualities and knows how to find a way out of any situation. His character is somewhat spoiled by his temper and grumpiness. If he occupies a leadership position (and this often happens), then his subordinates will have to get used to his manner of reprimanding him for a long time even for minor violations. He achieves success in his professional career, his colleagues value him for his integrity, pedantry, purposefulness and... they are somewhat afraid of him. In girls, Egor values ​​modesty most of all. Egor is a straightforward and somewhat simple-minded person; his declarations of love and proposals are, as a rule, sincere and serious. A respectable family man, a strong owner, somewhat strict with children. He does not contradict in small things, but in serious matters he shows firmness.

The meaning of the name Julia

From Greek “wavy, fluffy”, from Latin “female Roman name”.

With an unbridled imagination, a touchy and vulnerable girl. Significant changes in mood are noticeable when the cheerful, playful and noisy Yulenka suddenly becomes lethargic and apathetic for no particular reason. In this state, it is best to leave the girl alone - time will pass, and she will become the same again. It is difficult to argue with her, she stands her ground to the last, and is reluctant to admit her mistakes. She is somewhat timid, does not like to watch horror films, and cannot stand the sight of blood. Adult Yulia is thrifty, thrifty, and a good cook. What is there in her pantries! Julia devotes almost all her time to her family, housekeeping, and the well-being of her relatives. She is of little interest in work and professional growth, so colleagues often have the impression of Yulia as a lazy person. Julia is hampered by her stubbornness, which she has had since childhood. She will not follow other people's advice, even in cases where she knows that they are quite reasonable. This character trait does not allow Yulia to find a common language with her mother and mother-in-law, so she prefers to live apart from them. Many Julias are passionate book lovers; reading is their favorite pastime.

The meaning of the name Yuri

From Greek - farmer.

Yuri is a calm, somewhat self-absorbed person. His reserved behavior and philosophical mindset come into some conflict with his appearance. Yuri's gestures, facial expressions, and manner of speaking are distinguished by some artistry. However, his artistry is a purely natural property. Yuri does not care at all about attracting the attention of the fairer sex.

And now guys, we invite you to play a little.

In 2 minutes you must remember and write down names in which two identical letters are together, usually these are double consonants, but there are also vowels. (Anna, Alla, Inna, Zhanna, Savva, Daniil, Kirill, etc.)

Well done! You have completed this task! Now let's move on to the next one. The task is called “Girls and Boys”. Now you have to remember among boys and girls, i.e. names used to call both boys and girls. You have 2 minutes. (Anton - Antonina, Rome - Rimma, Stepan - Stepanida, Valentin - Valentina, Alexander - Alexandra, Evgeniy - Evgenia, Victor - Victoria, etc.)

Your next task is to remember as many great, famous people named Alexander as possible. (Alexander the Great, Alexander Pushkin, Alexander I, Alexander II, Alexander Blok, Alexander Suvorov, Alexander Nevsky, etc.)

Within a certain time, all the children must remember the ancient names that our great-grandmothers and great-grandfathers were called. Some of them are now completely unheard of, while others are coming back into fashion. (Agrofena, Fedot, Ephraim, Praskovya, Averky, Leonty, Lavrenty, Matvey, Makar, etc.).

Well done! Now you should, within a certain time, all the guys must remember songs in which names are mentioned, and you can even perform one verse at a time. (“Katyusha”, “Antoshka”, “Girl Praskovya from the Moscow Region”, “Faina”, “Happy Birthday, Vika”, “Alexandra”, “Liza”, etc.)

Summarizing.

Well done! It's time to sum up our class hour. What new things have you learned about yourself?

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Methodist:

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The ability to communicate with other people is the key to your personal and professional success. It is this quality that allows you to arouse the interest, sympathy, trust of another person, win him over to your side, and extract some benefit from the situation.

What and how you say is of great importance in the communication process. One of the magic words that greatly influences the atmosphere and mutual perception is the name of your interlocutor. Calling by name is not just a formal display of politeness. This word to you, like a magnet, forces you to listen carefully to your words, believe them and take them into account. When a person addresses his counterpart by name, he makes him feel the most positive emotions that arise on a subconscious level. Based on these feelings, a trusting relationship arises between people, which helps to better hear each other, understand, and come to a positive and beneficial decision.

The power of a name

The fact that every person is pleased to hear his own name has long been noticed by psychologists and is successfully used as a win-win communication technique. A person hears his own name from childhood and strongly associates his personality with it. It includes appearance, spiritual and mental qualities, feelings, emotions, intelligence, abilities, abilities and skills. Calling by name implies special attention to a specific person, an expression of respect, recognition of significance and individuality. Such an attitude towards a loved one, a stranger, a casual interlocutor or a business partner will definitely find a positive response.

This is why calling a person by name is so important:

1. The name evokes the most pleasant associations - with childhood, maternal love, approval, spiritual comfort, warmth;
2. Hearing your name is a confirmation of importance, attention, respect for your own personality;
3. Calling by name evokes pleasant emotions, in response to which a positive attitude, sympathy, trust and respect for the interlocutor arises.

Calling by first name, patronymic or simply by name serves as confirmation of the importance of the interlocutor, recognition of qualities, advantages, capabilities, etc. Such a move gives him moral satisfaction and helps to sway him in your direction. After all, a person who was able to appreciate and recognize our merits and talents is himself perceived as the owner of important positive qualities and intelligence, attracts and wins over us.

How to correctly address your interlocutor by name

Whether you can call a person by name or not depends on how he introduced himself. Addressing by first name and patronymic will be appropriate when communicating with a person whom you are seeing for the first time, older in age, higher in status or position. If the interlocutor did not specify how to contact him, then you can ask about it yourself. If you are going for an interview, preparing to meet business partners, new colleagues or students, or the parents of a loved one, be sure to find out and remember the names of the people with whom you will communicate. Calling a new person by his first name lays a solid foundation for a good relationship. In order for your interlocutor to be pleased to hear your name, you must follow the rules for using this magic word:

1. Use a person's name more often when talking to him. It is better to start any appeal by mentioning the name, this will allow you to capture the attention of your interlocutor from the first seconds;
2. Avoid excessive familiarity by using a reduced form, or calling only by name an older or unfamiliar person or boss, unless he himself has expressed such a desire;
3. Remember the names of the people around you, if necessary, write them down in a notebook, use the association method. Your natural poor memory will be perceived as a sign of disrespect, and the response is not difficult to predict;
4. Be at the appropriate level, especially in a business meeting. It is necessary to address the interlocutor as he introduced himself, and to adhere to the same level, taking into account the importance of the meeting, the status of the participants, and your position. Even if you are a junior specialist, you should still introduce yourself not as Sasha, but as Alexander or Alexander Petrovich, depending on your age category.

Calling by name is the key to a successful relationship

Why is calling a person by name so important? The significance of your own name stems from the subconscious and is inextricably linked with a positive self-perception. Calling by name is a simple and effective way to attract the attention of another person, overcome hostility and mistrust, arouse sympathy, build a productive dialogue, and get the desired result. This is the key that opens the door to new opportunities, harmonious personal relationships, professional growth and success, and personal development.

The ubiquity of foreign language borrowings in the Russian language affected not only the vocabulary, but also etiquette (not characteristic of the Russian people) rules. At Pyatigorskaya Pravda we are trying to fight this, we adhere to the classical canons, because we are convinced that a high-quality newspaper with a long history should be quite conservative.

If we talk about the general trend in the media, then it is necessary to note that in the second half of the 80s, our fatherland “lost” its patronymic name. That is, the means of communication (television, radio, newspapers) began to call people in the Western manner, only by first and last name: not Yuri Alekseevich Gagarin, but Yuri Gagarin, not Boris Nikolaevich Yeltsin, but Boris Yeltsin, not Mikhail Sergeevich Gorbachev, but Mikhail Gorbachev . Currently, all media use this truncated form: first name + last name. It’s strange to hear on television and radio how elderly, distinguished people are called solely by their first names. Nowadays the trinity is used more for identification purposes than as a form of respect.

The tradition of calling each other by first name and patronymic has been with Russians since time immemorial. This is a tribute to a person, part of Russian speech etiquette. Using only a first and last name, we become like (as one of my older comrades often repeats) Ivans, who do not remember kinship. After all, with what respect in the old days they addressed the famous ancient Russian hero Ilya Muromets, “Svet Ivanovich.” The patronymic has always elevated the Russian person.

The custom of being called by patronymic dates back to ancient times. According to researchers, patronymic names began to appear in the 11th - 12th centuries. The use of first and patronymic names in the pre-family period initially also served a practical purpose. It not only reflected respect for the memory of parents, but also acted as a legally established sign of a unique right to property, spiritual and other inheritance from the father.

The three-member naming of people - first name, patronymic, last name - is a feature of the Russian language. This formula arose in the era of Peter I, then spread to Ukraine and Belarus, and then further, to other lands of vast Russia.

The adoption of the trinity in Russia is far from accidental: at one time it even acquired a sacred meaning - as the Orthodox Christian Trinity (God the Father, God the Son, God the Holy Spirit) was opposed to the Western European “twin” (God the Father and God the Son).

The triune model (first name + patronymic + last name) was adopted by almost all the peoples of Russia and the USSR. Russia has always had a respectful attitude towards other peoples and their traditions: it is known, for example, that among the Balts, residents of the Caucasus and the Far North, it is not customary to use patronymics in intranational communication. The father's name is indicated only in official documents.

The two-part form (even if the name is complete), as observations show, causes another violation of etiquette: addressing the interlocutor as “you,” while calling him by his first name and patronymic pushes him to “you.” That is, in Russian etiquette everything is interconnected: one depends on the other. On the one hand, we seem to have gotten rid of excessive veneration for rank (it’s curious that some journalists often introduce themselves only by their first name, even without a last name! When you ask for a middle name, you usually hear: “It’s not customary here!” Who is not accepted? When? Why? – it’s not clear), on the other hand, we offend many people.

It may be objected that the two-part formula (first name + surname) shows the language’s desire for compression, but is this really so? Or maybe this fact is one of the manifestations of “democratization” and vulgarization of the language, mixing Western European with Nizhny Novgorod?